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How can i spice up my sex life? Approach with caution!!!

(20 Posts)
sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:23:56

It's ok but it could be better. I think i would be embarressed to be well saucy and sexy. I know everybody is different but any tips anyway?

double blush for me!

sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:28:04

I take it everyone is out having great sex then?!

Wilkie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:28:42

What kind of tips are you looking for?

chacha3 Thu 06-Sep-07 22:29:31

get a rampant rabbit kitsandbits is selling them

sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:30:54

I don't know really. more blush to me!

Wilkie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:36:18

There is loads of suggestions to make but it depends how prudish you are. There is no point in doing anything that you feel really stupid doing. off top of my head:

Mutual masterbation
Tying each other up? Blindfolding?
Sex other than int he bedroom

What type of person are you?

sweetcherrypie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:40:15

Quiet and shy. I am not shy around dp now but in the bedroom i feel i am not as open (no pun intended) as i could be after 2yrs of being with him. I thought i would have been less shy by now with him.

Wilkie Thu 06-Sep-07 22:42:11

Hmmm, maybe I am not the best person to be giving advice then cos I am TOTALLY open when it comes to sex (possibly TOO much)! grin

hoolagirl Thu 06-Sep-07 22:54:25

A bit of enthusiasim counts for a lot more than people give it credit.
Maybe just some saucyish underwear that you can leave on till the very last and some gentle teasing?!
Just really feeling more saucier and confident in yourself without resorting to bondage etc....
(not that i have a problem with bondage wink)

rebeccaloos Thu 06-Sep-07 23:16:01

have a bath together and explore, that's what i did with david (beckham), ...allegedly wink

madamez Thu 06-Sep-07 23:37:02

Read some norty fiction. Don't bother with any How To Spice Up Your Relationship books as they are nearly all ghastly condesecending rubbish with identical advice about leaving your knickers at home. Good stuff to look out for: Black Lace novels (especially Emma Holly or Portia Da Costa), Scarlet magazine (available in Tescos I believe), Desire magazine, Forum magazine (though that might be a bit full on if you;re the shy type). Read a few things in different styles, see what makes you go 'mmm' and then consider sharing your reading with your DH and seeing what he thinks

jellybelly25 Fri 07-Sep-07 12:02:07

Ditto erotic fiction. Get a couple of inobtrusive sex toys (little vibrating rings etc - Boots sell them! Silk scarves for blindfolds) they're not super saucy but gives you something to giggle about

meandmy Fri 07-Sep-07 12:10:23

we have the best sex when we have spent ages cuddling kissing touching i am quite shy but sex anywhere other than on the bed spices things up a bit.
sneak and pounce when he not expecting it

meandmy Fri 07-Sep-07 12:10:29

we have the best sex when we have spent ages cuddling kissing touching i am quite shy but sex anywhere other than on the bed spices things up a bit.
sneak and pounce when he not expecting it

meandmy Fri 07-Sep-07 12:11:12

opps laptop playing up

filthymindedvixen Fri 07-Sep-07 12:16:04

Try different textures etc. Blindfold each other (not at the same time...that could get silly!) and stroke each other with feathers, velvet, fingers, oils etc. It's not too full on or embarrassing to suggest but it gives you both a chance to concentrate on sensations and erogenous zones without having to swing from the chandeliars wink

sleepfinder Fri 07-Sep-07 20:36:11

glass of wine, gentle porn. (maybe?) Its all about getting you in the right frame of mind to be uninhibited without actually having to THINK about what you're doing, or going to do, or should be doing etc.

biglips Fri 07-Sep-07 20:47:56

the only thing that annoyed me with Dp is that he wants sex late at night but theres me wanting to go to sleep there and then!....

ooooh i need a holiday!!

madamez Fri 07-Sep-07 20:57:16

Biglips: leap on him in the morning

biglips Fri 07-Sep-07 20:59:06

well he is a morning man but im not!! hmm i do need to kick myself up the arse!!

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