Hi all
This post is a little ranty- so apologies in advance.
I think it is probably one of those days where my environment was constantly reminding me that I am single and that perhaps I "shouldn't" be. Just today I was looking to buy myself some perfume and a well meaning assistant approached me and told me that there is also a "His" version too. I knew she meant nothing but still, a monologue played out in my head- ha ha
Then, for lunch, went to a food store and found that the better food choices for ready made meals were meals "for 2", not individual- now yes, I can eat for 2 and the bottle of wine that comes with is always welcome, but honestly, my heart sank a little.
The world is not made for single women is it?
I started to look at holidays for the summer and true to fashion, if I wanted to stay a hotel, it works out cheaper travelling as a pair or couple as many places charge a supplement for single occupiers. Single only holidays are marked up too.
I am in my mid 30's, divorced and a proud mum to a teen. I naively thought dating or finding the right guy would be easy. Far from I'm sure you can agree. It feels like I'm at a completely different stage of my life than my friends- finding myself single at the wrong time (I married young, when my friends were single)
I have had many online duds as dates and whilst I'm not giving up I decided to just spend more time with my friends. None are really interested in going out for meals or drinks anymore as they are all coupled up and settled. They'll invite me over, (which I do accept) but that kind of defeats the object.
There is only so much third wheeling I can handle and honestly, on the weekend evenings when my son is with his dad, I don't know what to do with myself. I've taken myself out a few times. At home I clean, I prep, I exercise, I binge watch tv, but it gets boring after a while and sometimes I just want to dress up and go out- with someone. My nice clothes and heels are just gathering dust.
The meetups in my area are mostly daytime,female, older and craft related- which, although great, has not really opened any other stream of socializing.
I've tried Bumble Bff and believe it or not, the women on there are worse than the men- been cancelled on last minute a few times from women.
For any mums in a similar position, have you found anything that helped you process this situation and have you found any strategies or advice that helped?
Thanks for reading! x
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Being single at the wrong time- Is the world single woman-friendly?
LilMissRe · 27/02/2020 18:27
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