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fedupdotcomlo Sun 16-Feb-20 20:02:41

Been together a couple months, only had sex recently. He has a small penis. I've slept with quite a few men over the years and none have been as small as this one. I really like him, we just click, he's so kind thoughtful literally everything I want in a man. I do fancy him, I do want to have sex with him but it's difficult, I can't feel it when it's in!! He seems to enjoy it but I don't. He's good with everything else, can please me in other ways but sometimes I just like a good seeing to if you know what I mean. Anyone had a relationship with a man like it?! Did you find ways to make it enjoyable?! How?! It's not a deal breaker for me, but I just love sex so this is a bit disappointing. I'd never tell him, he seems oblivious to it, so not sure if other women he's been with found it an issue!

ThirtyAndASmidgen Sun 16-Feb-20 20:16:37

I once had a boyfriend who had a micropenis. Poor guy but it was a dealbreaker for me as I couldn’t feel anything blush

inicecoldblood Sun 16-Feb-20 20:17:59

Haha I'm the same as pp would be a dealbreaker for me too.

fedupdotcomlo Sun 16-Feb-20 20:20:10

I was afraid people would say that 😩

Kittykat93 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:20:26

My ex had a really small one. And although I always assured him it was absolutely fine and I loved him the way he was, sex just wasn't satisfying enough for me. I ended up just not wanting to sleep with him as it wasn't pleasurable. It's awful as obviously there's nothing they can do about it.

Blinkme Sun 16-Feb-20 20:20:56

I've split with a guy because of this. He was lovely, we were really good friends, I was attracted to him when we went to bed one night, I was really disappointed. It was really small and there is no way he would have kept me satisfied so I walked away, set him up with a friend and they have been together for 10 years, married for 3. What doesn't work for you will work for someone else, let him go.

scoobydoo1971 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:23:49

It will be a dealbreaker in the end, in all probability. If it is already enough of a problem that you need to post it on this forum, then his more attractive atttributes will not matter. I had a relationship with two men who were somewhat lacking downstairs...it was disappointing as you compare to other lovers. They may be good in bed in other ways, but if intercourse is something that you really enjoy then it can be frustrating and affect intimacy. My last partner was not well endowed, and I didn't miss the sexual relationship when we broke up as it was a car crash. I suppose you could try sex toys if you really, really like this guy and he is willing to have an open discussion.

bobstersmum Sun 16-Feb-20 20:24:10

I've been out with a guy with a small penis and it didn't actually bother me, what bothered me was he was a total twat. If the guy is genuinely lovely and you are attracted to him then I think it would be a shame to end it because of this. There are other ways he can pleasure you!

Longsight2019 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:31:24

How small are we talking?

goldenorbspider Sun 16-Feb-20 20:34:06

You have my sympathy! I dated a really nice guy. He tried so hard in the bedroom but there's just no compensating.

ThirtyAndASmidgen Sun 16-Feb-20 20:34:33

I think my ex might have been a very extreme case because I actually thought it was a clitoris when I first saw it shock I adore sex but think I could live with smaller than normal if the relationship was wonderful in other ways.

category12 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:35:19

Couldn't you use toys etc to make it more fun for you? It seems a shame to give up on it if he's willing to do other things to please you and the the rest of it is good.

SidsWife Sun 16-Feb-20 20:36:36

God no. Not something you can compromise on in my opinion! For me it has to be 6in or more.

fairgame84 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:37:45

How small?
I've been with a guy on the smaller side of normal. Sex was better when I put a pillow under my bum to raise my hips.

Wannabangbang Sun 16-Feb-20 20:38:45

Would he be up for trying a strap on?

Gizmo79 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:38:57

Must ask same as PP, how small are we talking? If it is just u dear average then there are things that can help- cock sleeves I believe. Never used them myself although perhaps would have been useful on one ex....

otterhound Sun 16-Feb-20 20:40:20

Somewhere on reddit or piston heads is a man posting with the title ‘new woman, massive fanny’

Its not his fault. Plenty of crap humans out there. Little in life is perfect

ButterflyBitch Sun 16-Feb-20 20:40:34

I went out with someone who was really small. Really lovely guy but sex was tricky as I couldn’t feel it either.
He’s been with someone else for years and they have a child together so must work for them!

NSFW Sun 16-Feb-20 20:43:02

Yep, total turn off for me. I'm happy with medium, however latest squeeze is MASSIVE. I've a very happy smile on my face

Wannabangbang Sun 16-Feb-20 20:44:31

And i agree with others depends how small? And how much you like him too

CalleighDoodle Sun 16-Feb-20 20:45:59

I think it depends on what else is on offer from him. As long as he doesn't have personal hang ups about toys and refuses to add some to the sex, and the foreplay is exceptional, why not?

CalleighDoodle Sun 16-Feb-20 20:46:19

but it has been a deal breaker for me

restingbitchface30 Sun 16-Feb-20 20:47:10

I had a micro penis once. He said let me know if I hurt u ☹️ However we had a lot of passion. Probs the most passion I had with anyone. It wasn’t why I stopped seeing him though so don’t write anything off yet

LeekMunchingSheepShagger Sun 16-Feb-20 20:48:55

I think it would be a deal breaker for me. I can’t orgasm through penetration with a small penis and it just isn’t satisfying.

CalleighDoodle Sun 16-Feb-20 20:50:16

I had a micro penis once is the best sentence

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