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When you split up, who is entitled to what wedding jewellery?

(35 Posts)
lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:22:51

Don't get me wrong, I'm not being money grabbing, but dh is adamant that my jewellery should be returned to him. Fair enough, if that's true, but I want to know first?

ELF1981 Sun 02-Sep-07 20:23:36

No, it is yours.
I think (iirc) that it is classed as a gift and you cannot take back a gift (dont quote me, not sure where I saw that written down!)

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:26:04

Well that's what I said, he says that it's payment (!) for the promise of marriage

fuzzywuzzy Sun 02-Sep-07 20:29:48

Really he said that???

Well if you married him then he got what he paid for, did he specify at time of presentation the length of time the payment was for, if not as Zsa Zsa Gabor said keep the diamonds darlink....I fecking would if h had that kinda attitude.

octavia Sun 02-Sep-07 20:29:56

If my dh said that to me I would give it back to him with a smirk followed by a look of pity at him

neednewbag Sun 02-Sep-07 20:30:27

why would you want it anyway it you're splitting up? wedding jwellery is different to a a birthday present or christmas present imo

NomDePlumeIsIrrationallyAngry Sun 02-Sep-07 20:31:31


Unless it is family heirloom from his side then keep it. I don't even think you are legally obliged to give it back if it an heirloom, but morally, I think you should.

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:32:00

well a friend said her mum gave her her jewellery when she was older, even though her and her dad had split up... so i was thinking of keeping it for dd although i don't know to what end. At least the eternity ring, I may at this rate have to sell the rest to cover bills..

either way, like I said, if it's his he can have it, but with how awful he's being I don't really want to give him anything he isn't due.

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:32:37

oh he also said it's considered an 'asset' when divvying up cash and belongings

NomDePlumeIsIrrationallyAngry Sun 02-Sep-07 20:33:07

I don't know anyone who has divorced and been made to give their engagement/wedding rings back. Those that have, have done it off their own bat(or is it back? I get confused)

nutcracker Sun 02-Sep-07 20:33:15

It's yours, if you want to keep it then keep it and tell him to piss off.

I kept the eternity ring that xp gave me a few months before wesplit hmm. I like it and I don't have much jewelery, so I still wear it, but have swapped it to right hand.

lulumama Sun 02-Sep-07 20:33:37

i think as a gift in expectation of marriage it is differnt to a payment for the promise of marriage

what an arse

Beetroot Sun 02-Sep-07 20:34:47

No your jewlkery is yours.

twinsetandpearls Sun 02-Sep-07 20:35:29

I can remember getting a ridiculous letter from my ex during our divorce asking me to return various itmes of jewellery, handbags and other items to him as they were meant for the woman he was married to and I no longer had that status as if he were part of the royal family grin

I told him to fuck off and ended up giving the lot to charity.

Earlybird Sun 02-Sep-07 20:35:55

I'm fairly sure it's yours to keep as it was a gift from him to you. I know of people who have kept engagement rings even though the marriage never happened based on that same logic.

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:36:11

okay thank you everyone i will tell him this

He's arguing lots of stuff like this... I'm going to bring it up in mediation but it's good to know.

Any ideas about this one - I have money from my business (childminding) in an account to keep for my tax bill at the end of the year. There's usually some left over (well last time there was quite a bit, but this time there'll be less as I've had to use it to pay off debt angry ) either way if there's any left over from the period we were together, is he entitled to half? Dh says that it's considered savings, I say it's part of my business....

Again I'm not trying to be moneygrabbing blush he's honestly trying to screw me out of everything, including the kids, and I need to know...

twinsetandpearls Sun 02-Sep-07 20:36:14

Such items were not classed as an assett on our divorce.

Beetroot Sun 02-Sep-07 20:36:25

even if it is an heirloom it is yours.
stupid man

Beetroot Sun 02-Sep-07 20:36:26

even if it is an heirloom it is yours.
stupid man

twinsetandpearls Sun 02-Sep-07 20:37:06

If it were a family heirloom I would give it back tbh.

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:37:53

twinset - thank you I shall put them into hiding and inform him they aren't an asset. He already hid them and two other half decent bits of my jewellery for a month, including his wedding ring, and told me that I'd misplaced them and abused me for thinking little of him. He said he had a 'moment of clarity' and had hid them when drunk, however I know that he's lying as I'd looked in the place he claimed they were... I hate it when things get petty.

lunavix Sun 02-Sep-07 20:38:08

Yes if it was an heirloom I'd give it back.

Beetroot Sun 02-Sep-07 20:40:17

what for him to give to his next wife


keep them for your daughter

twinsetandpearls Sun 02-Sep-07 20:45:14

I suppose you could keep them to give to your dd, I just wanted rid of it all really as it reminded me of what a silly litte materialistic bitch I had to become to marry such a man.

twinsetandpearls Sun 02-Sep-07 20:45:56

I did keep all the Louis Vuitton though grin

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