Posting here because I’m feeling far too sensitive for AIBU. Backstory: both my father and my stepfather cheated on my mother with people they met at work, so I accept that I might be a little bit unreasonably paranoid.
I am mid 20s and DP and I have been together since we were 15 and have lived together for the last 7 years, we bought the house we currently live in 4 years ago and have two dogs, both professional jobs. The problem is DP lies. Sometimes it’s really stupid stuff like I’ll say did you do a load of washing and he’ll say yes, I know he didn’t because I know what washing there is. When I confront him about it he laughs it off. He started mentioning a girl from work frequently, and stupidly I looked through his phone one day. All messages were nothing but friendly, no concerns, but I noticed he’d lied to her about falling the down stairs so couldn’t go in to work. Coincidentally, he’d told me that he had a day off which he’d forgotten that he’d booked off. So he’s obviously lied to work to get the day off. Today, he told me some story about being sent home which I didn’t believe, I jested a bit and said come on that can’t be real, he insisted it was. We were just sat on the sofa and his phone flashed up “Is she ok? Are you home from hospital yet?” I asked wtf that was about and he tried dismissing it as “It doesn’t matter”. I said it obviously does, what have you lied about? And he said he did really get sent home from work but he was supposed to do something for someone which he didn’t have time to do so lied and said I was ill. I don’t swallow it all. I’m sat in bed crying because I’ve just realised I don’t trust him at all and is there any wonder? I know it’s only work but what if he loses his job over his attendance when we have a mortgage to pay? I’ve posted pictures on social media tonight, someone from his work could’ve seen them and would know I’m not in hospital. I don’t know if I’m over reacting or whether people are going to say LTB but how when it’s all you’ve ever known, your family love him & you’re financially tied? I don’t know what to do.
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y0rkier0se · 24/01/2020 22:52
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