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Weird sex thing.....?

25 replies

Sumsuch · 14/01/2020 23:33

This isnt ATAAT ....

Last person I dated didn't like to get close during sex. He would hardly touch my, only kiss after he climaxed, almost no foreplay, didn't like penetration... it's like he would try to be as far away as possible. If I initiated, he would go limp.

Anyhow... several times, when we were physically close, he would put his hand around the base of my throat- just resting it there. It made me uncomfortable.

That's really nowhere near normal, right?

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Sumsuch · 14/01/2020 23:34

he would hardly touch me, not my

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NeedAnExpert · 14/01/2020 23:35

This is the second thread today about this.

MashedSpud · 14/01/2020 23:36

The whole thing isn’t normal including the last bit.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 14/01/2020 23:36

How did you have sex then?

Run like wind

Windmillwhirl · 14/01/2020 23:37

I think you know it's not normal.

Sumsuch · 14/01/2020 23:49

This is the second thread today about this

Yes, I read the other one, and it made me go " hmmm"

We rarely had penetrative sex, and if we did we couldn't orgasm.

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Sumsuch · 14/01/2020 23:49

he couldn't orgasm. Dear lord butter fingers!

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 14/01/2020 23:51

I'd say you had a lucky escape.

OutFoxxedByABadger · 14/01/2020 23:52

If he would hardly touch you and didn't do penetration what does that leave? Just you giving him a wank or being his wank fodder?

OutFoxxedByABadger · 14/01/2020 23:52

(And didn't do foreplay either)

TwistinMyMelon · 14/01/2020 23:53

Did your sex just involve a staring contest? With a bit of strangulation?

Sumsuch · 14/01/2020 23:54

@outfoxxed
Basically, yes 😕

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noego · 15/01/2020 00:05

Asexual. With possible kink

Have a look at AVEN. If you're not comfortable OP then get out.

VenusTiger · 15/01/2020 00:23

She's already left him. See OP.
Gotta be porn related.

OutFoxxedByABadger · 15/01/2020 00:39

Weird.

Interestedwoman · 15/01/2020 00:48

'Choking' is very trendy now in a way it wasn't in the past. It's similar to when the fad for anal got stronger, or I've noticed that when people are digitally stimulating women now, they spend more time on jabbing their fingers up you maybe trying to aim at the supposed G-spot, than on the clit. (Boo, hiss!)

But he shouldn't be putting his hands round your throat without asking you if it's ok! (It's not my thing, either.)

Lilymossflower · 15/01/2020 01:13

This is the sign of a fucking psychopath

Seriously

Sumsuch · 15/01/2020 07:46

@Lilymossflower
Do you think?

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category12 · 15/01/2020 07:50

Massive issues. Legging it is the appropriate response.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 15/01/2020 08:30

'Choking' is very trendy now in a way it wasn't in the past. It's similar to when the fad for anal got stronger, or I've noticed that when people are digitally stimulating women now, they spend more time on jabbing their fingers up you maybe trying to aim at the supposed G-spot, than on the clit. (Boo, hiss!)

Fucking porn

Treesthemovie · 15/01/2020 13:32

It's weird that you even have to ask. No this is not normal

Sexnotgender · 15/01/2020 13:36

Totally not normal! Be glad you got out.

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Sumsuch · 15/01/2020 18:29

I am glad I'm out.
Things hadn't started off that way- but actually, at the beginning he would aim to give me as many orgasms as possible.
While that was lovely, I think that was more about him as well....

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Sumsuch · 15/01/2020 18:31

TwistinMyMelon

Did your sex just involve a staring contest? With a bit of strangulation
🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Kerryboo22 · 15/01/2020 22:28

That's very weird,almost like a psychopath.

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