Mumsnet please go gentle. I've wanted to post this for a long time but know the MN view and haven't been strong enough to take the kicking. There are huge mental health issues going on here and I really need helpful advice rather than you are an awful person /kick me when down.
Background. Deliberately vague so as not to be identified.
How do you get over someone you have loved and cared about for nearly 15 years?
Not an affair for that entire time but a real true friendship and knowing each other better than the mask we both have worn in real life at times.
I have been completely in love with him and totally betrayed all of those around me including my own values. My mental health has been awful and I've considered various paths to end this all. Suicidal thoughts. Leaving husband. Abandoning family. Right now the plan is medication and counselling. Guilt comes in waves. It's mostly self doubting and loathing at moment.
Recently he's acknowledged his own mental health issues. It's far worse than I ever realised. I've supported him - classic rescued at one point. All of thoughts of him and I together went. Completely vanished. I just wanted him alive and happy.
We'll never be together and whilst we have said we will always care and be friends for now we can't be in touch. He doesnt love me. It hurts. I feel rejected plus I really miss him.
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End of an affair
Endofanaffair · 13/01/2020 06:50
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