I've been dating someone for 6 months. We both travel a lot so away for periods of time, but things have stepped up in frequency since October (seeing each other most days and staying over 2 nights a week at each other's places.)
While he was travelling last week he called me from abroad in the evening to say hi, that he had been thinking about me a lot, and he was very drunk. While we were talking he said he was looking forward to seeing me the next day and he said that when we see each other and we have sex, he wants me to say (he read it out to me like a script): that I love him, I want to be his and that I want to belong to him forever. He was insistent on it. Saying please, for me, say it to me. This didn't seem odd to me, although we are not saying "I love you" or anything, it's still quite early days, and the other stuff is not the kind of thing I would normally say.
Fast forward to the next day and we spend a nice afternoon and evening, go out for dinner, go back to his and we start having sex. While we are at it, I start saying what he wants me to say. Sex is good and finishes and we hold each other, and he says, "I'm a bit surprised by what you said?" I said "what do you mean?" He said "you know what I mean, all the stuff about love, and being min forvever, it's pretty full on. To be honest, it makes me a bit scared."
I was really tired and a bit drunk myself and got quite upset but couldn't put my finger on why. He said "listen, things are great. You are my girlfriend and we care about each other and we have amazing sex and we love being around each other. But I am not ready to start talking about forever or making big decisions. I hope that's okay?"
when I eventually sobered up and woke up the next morning I was still upset and reminded him that this is what he told me to say. He says he doesn't remember. When I insisted that he did, he tried to brush it off and just said "I suppose I have to stop drinking." Every time I bring it up now he brushes it off quickly, but that conversation has stayed with me.
I feel completely set up and manipulated and a bit embarrassed.
Do you think my reaction is normal? What is he playing at?
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What do you think of this? Feel like rug pulled
tampongate · 02/12/2019 11:23
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