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I've just seen his wedding pictures

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PurpleFrames Sun 17-Nov-19 00:45:51

Yeah that's basically it.
I've seen the wedding pictures of him and the new wife.

There's a three month gap (if that) between us.

Any advice on not feeling like I'm smashed into tiny pieces?

EvenMoreFuriousVexation Sun 17-Nov-19 02:00:47

I'm sorry, that must feel very painful.

Do you have DC together? Can you just block the cunt on social media so you don't see hurtful shit like this?

Aquamarine1029 Sun 17-Nov-19 02:28:28

How have you seen his wedding photos? If you're stalking him on sm you need to stop. It's pointless and ridiculous.

Bluerussian Sun 17-Nov-19 02:35:35

Are you saying he finished with you and married someone else within three months? If he did, he almost certainly 'knew' her while still with you. I sincerely hope you do not have children together, it would be a kick in the teeth for them too.

That is hurtful but there is no point in looking him up on social media, it will be like rubbing salt into a wound.

In time you will move on, PurpleFrames. Things will be better.

flowers brew cake

sofato5miles Sun 17-Nov-19 02:42:47

3 months after the divorce? Just. Don't. Look.

It will drive you insane. You will move on. I promise, promise, promise you.

PurpleFrames Sun 17-Nov-19 02:56:50

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation Sadly not, it was a violent relationship and I lost my baby during one incident which is what caused the breakup

@Aquamarine1029 no I am not a pathetic teenager. The Wife came up in the mutual friends section, her profile pic was of them, totally unexpected.

@Bluerussian they were engaged within three months which I only know as a mutual friend told me (no stalking or messages) and now married it seems. Although you are probably right about DC it doesn't make me feel better about the circumstances around us not having any...

@sofato5miles thank you, I feel like deleting fb now... or at least disabling friend suggestion if that's even possible

Closetbeanmuncher Sun 17-Nov-19 03:21:34

it was a violent relationship and I lost my baby during one incident which is what caused the breakup

Start by thanking your lucky stars you're not this piece of shits punchbag anymore, block on social media and attend some counselling if possible.

I'm sorry for the loss of your baby

flowers

BercowsFestiveFlamingo Sun 17-Nov-19 03:21:33

thanks

Greedypeopleithink Sun 17-Nov-19 03:30:01

Lots of hugs ur way. U had a lucky escape to get away. i feel really sad that you had to go through that and loose a baby. I hope u are able to find a loving man and have lots of babies. I worry for his new partner. Lord knows what he does to her behind closed doors. Take care OP. xx

notsodimwit Sun 17-Nov-19 03:31:51

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Fredastaireatemyjamsandwich Sun 17-Nov-19 14:55:12

You can ‘block’ the woman on Facebook, that way you will not get any friend suggestions or see her posts on others walls.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sun 17-Nov-19 15:05:10

Block her and him. There's a way to tell Facebook that you don't want to be reminded about anything to do with ex-partners or friends, too, but I can't remember exactly how. It works well.

I'm sorry thanks

MitziK Sun 17-Nov-19 15:37:45

Poor you.

And poor her.

Might be a good time to get into Instagram if you still wish to use social media.

TowelNumber42 Sun 17-Nov-19 15:40:39

Blimey, you need to do the Freedom Programme or something if you feel sad for yourself that a violent thug married some idiot woman who will soon be a bloody pulp.

Namechangeforthiscancershit Sun 17-Nov-19 15:52:59

^ thank you, I feel like deleting fb now... or at least disabling friend suggestion if that's even possible^

Yep block them both. Do not give them one more second of headspace.

AlexaAmbidextra Sun 17-Nov-19 16:05:14

Just pity her because he will do the same to her that he did to you. You have lost nothing.

fit4more Sun 17-Nov-19 16:09:38

I’m so sorry you lost your baby but you should be proud of yourself for getting away from him not feeling sad! Feel sorry for that poor woman. She’s married to a thug. Hope you can build yourself a better happier life

dreichwinter Sun 17-Nov-19 17:20:24

OP you are much luckier than the poor woman who is with him now.
Seek support for your own losses and ditch the social media you saw them on.

Sandals19 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:23:53

it was a violent relationship and I lost my baby during one incident which is what caused the breakup

So this 'man' beat/threw/whatever one woman hard enough to miscarry a baby, and had now gotten engaged and married to a second woman within three months, is that right?

Well he sounds like a highly stable, functional, reliable person.

His new wife is going to learn why you don't get engaged to and then married to someone within three months the hard way.

You should just be glad it's no longer you.

Sandals19 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:24:37

*has now

Loopytiles Sun 17-Nov-19 17:25:26

Sorry you went through all that.

Poor woman he married.

Sandals19 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:26:27

Di you think he was cheating with her before your relationship ended or what?

Not that it makes any difference; that'd just make him a cheater as well as a beater (and someone who enters into serious commitments within a ridiculous timescale).

lookatthebabypenguin Sun 17-Nov-19 17:28:48

What he did to you he will do to her. Only she'll have an even harder time freeing herself of him because they're married.

You seem to be interpreting the speed of this marriage as "true love" rather than "gigantic red flag for serious abuse", which is what it really is.

lookatthebabypenguin Sun 17-Nov-19 17:31:33

And yes, Freedom Programme. It will help.

Sandals19 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:31:38

"Violent relationship" and "during one incident" makes it sound like there were quite a few incidents ... How many times did he attack you?

Also, unless you were regularly physically violent towards him too (and not in defense) it was not "a violent relationship"; he is a batterer.

Worth keeping that in mind.

This may be wrecking your head but it's just another manifestation of his instability and dysfunction.

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