Oh, I'll try to keep this as concise as possible. We have a son who is 12 months old. On Saturday DP was supposed to let me have a lie in, but came and woke me up at 9.45. (Still a lie in, but I was shattered and would have slept longer!) I let him have a lie in yesterday until 11am. (this gets more relevant in a minute...) DS then went for a nap so DP had the whole day free til 2.30pm. (I don't remember the last time I had anything like that much time on my hands.)
In the afternoon I asked DP when he would clear some cardboard boxes out of the yard. It looks hideous, they've been there rotting for months and he's been saying he'll do it for months. And there's always an excuse, ie it's raining, the cardboard's wet, whatever. Anyway, so when I asked him he got really arsey with me, and then all manner of stuff starts coming out. Apparently I think less of him because his son was in the house whilst he was trying to sleep, if I really cared I should have taken him out (for 3 hours - in the rain!) Then he says that I have loads of free time and he never gets any which of course is like a red rag to a bull; I work part time and look after DS the rest of the week, which is much harder than going to work! I ask him to leave it because I don't want to argue in front of our son but he never can leave it which makes me even angrier. Then he got all self righteous and told me to stop swearign in front of DS (yeah, probably shouldn't but he's 12 months old, DP swears, why pick that moment to decide we are going to stop) so you can imagine what the response to that was. So I left to avoid more arguing.
I dunno, it sounds trivial but I'm so angry that he thinks I have all this spare time and that even though I got up at 6am and worked my arse off all day he said he might as well not have bothered havign a lie in - I feel like everything I do gets thrown back in my face, and I can never discuss anythign with him because he gets really arsey, says things he claims he doesn't mean, which then do massive damage to the relationship. He seems to think it's sufficient to say that he doesn't mean what he says but it leaves me fuming and I can't just say "Oh well he didn't mean it" and forget about it because I feel it must have come from somewhere. I've just told him I don't even know if I want to be with him anymore since he has such a low opinion of me. I dunno what to do. Sorry, I'm garbling, aren't I. I just don't know how to move forward from here...
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DP being a bastard and I dunno how to calm down...
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bohemianbint · 20/08/2007 08:42
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