I have always done the majority of housework and cleaning 99%. Cooking, cleaning, staying up with the kids, washing up. The only thing he does is go to work and watch the kids one day a week when I work.
I find it very hard to get him to help me as he will not do anything unless I ask him a lot and he will always huff about it and take a Long time purposelfully to the point I just feel it's better to do myself.
This has been my normal but I want it to be where he helps me out, our children we're both I'll this week and he had the entire week of yet didn't make dinner once, didn't get up early with the kids or hoover or anything really. One day I was awake for 43 hours as I had to take my eldest to hospital and he still got his good nights sleep then lay in and asked me to make homemade chicken soup and was shocked when I was fuming. There is no thankyou or consideration and when I tell him I'm not happy at the distribution of workload he'll just snap 'go to bed then' and be moody or say he'll do it tomorrow as there's nothing that can be done today. Then never do it then when I point out that he never usually does it will say that I'm being unreasonable as he will be.
I feel so frustrated and don't bother speaking half the time but this week has been so much but I feel like I'm crazy
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junipervraiment · 09/11/2019 12:46
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