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AIBU - Husbands tattoo

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Cornishmaid77 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:09:32

So my husband has gone off today to get a cover up tattoo done. He's just sent me a picture of what he's having done and it's a woman's face! Now I appreciate he's limited to what he's having done because it's a cover up of an old tattoo but I feel really annoyed that he's going to have this beautiful woman's face on his arm forever! I asked him how he'd feel if I had a tattoo of a random man on my arm but I don't think he gets why I'm pissed off. What do you think?

plantainchips Sat 09-Nov-19 12:10:41

Not sure I’d like it but what can you do ?

SouthernComforts Sat 09-Nov-19 12:13:11

It's a very very common tattoo for men. As long as it's not a picture of Sue from next door it wouldn't bother me.

Cornishmaid77 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:14:06

@SouthernComforts that made me laugh

Velveteenfruitbowl Sat 09-Nov-19 12:14:45

That’s the tattoo equivalent of buying a woman’s portrait as an art collector. I really don’t see the issue.

smartcarnotsosmartdriver Sat 09-Nov-19 12:21:09

Unless it's someone he knows then it's fine. No different from buying an art print with a generically beautiful woman on it.

MaeveDidIt Sat 09-Nov-19 12:22:47

I wouldn't like it either.

BumbleBeee69 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:23:51

What a TWAT ... tell him to choose a bloomin Dog or a Bear not a womans face FFS confused

ComtesseDeSpair Sat 09-Nov-19 12:28:16

Well, I think it’s weird because who has the face of a random woman tattooed on them? Your partner, daughter, sister or mum - sure, I can get on board with that. A celebrity you really like and think is attractive? Again, sure, I’m not a jealous of possessive type and am quite comfortable with the idea that my partner might find other women interesting or attractive. That in itself wouldn’t bother or threaten me.

But some flash tattoo of a woman's face?? Why?? The idiot is setting himself up for a lifetime of people saying “ooh, I like your tattoo, is it your wife/daughter?” and he’ll have to gormlessly reply that no, it’s just some face if some unidentified woman he saw in a tattoo shop wall.

That’s the bit that would bother me, the sheer idiocy.

TheHonestTruth100 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:31:07

I'm a little surprised at the outrage? If he was getting Sandra from work tattooed on his arm then I get it, but it's a random woman's face so I'm not sure what the problem is?

EvenMoreFuriousVexation Sat 09-Nov-19 12:33:23

Is it a cartoony type or a photorealistic (aka deeply terrifying) one?

theoffice101 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:35:46

I wouldn't say it's the same as having a woman's portrait from an art collector confused I wouldn't like it

Cornishmaid77 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:36:48

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation it's defo not cartoon.

WhoKnewBeefStew Sat 09-Nov-19 12:38:30

I used to go out with a bloke that had 1950s pin up type women all over him. Didn't bother me... it's a fairly common thing to have done tbh. Did you not talk about it before he had it done

ScreamingCosArgosHaveNoRavens Sat 09-Nov-19 12:38:49

It sounds tasteless to me, but then I'm not a fan of tattoos so I tend to think the smaller, the better. If I had a tattooed DH who was regretting a tattoo, I'd rather save up to pay for getting it lasered off altogether.

Cornishmaid77 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:40:27

Tbh I'm shocked how much it's bothered me because I'm not the jealous type at all. I just find it weird that he would want that. It's there forever and people are bound to ask who it is! I can just imagine his reaction if I had a random man tattooed on my arm!!

Turnedouttoes Sat 09-Nov-19 12:42:06

I’m not sure I’d be happy about this tbh but did you not ask him what he was going to get done before he got it??

Cornishmaid77 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:42:11

@WhoKnewBeefStew we did discuss it before and never did we mention another woman's face! I've just gone through the Pinterest's we saved and there is nothing even remotely similar.

TheHonestTruth100 Sat 09-Nov-19 12:43:16

You said you told him how you feel right OP? What's his response, is he still going ahead with it?

MrsFoxPlus4Again Sat 09-Nov-19 12:47:08

I can see why it’s annoyed you. But coming from a heavily tattooed couple it’s not uncommon. I’m not sure why it’s a thing but I have a women tattooed on myself 😂. Assuming it’s better than what he’s getting covered it’s not because he fancy’s this face

ELM8 Sat 09-Nov-19 13:06:34

It's one thing having it before he met you, but getting it now is weird

thespellhasbeenbroken123 Sat 09-Nov-19 13:59:10

It would really really upset me
And make me feel like pure shit
But I am incredibly insecure and jealous so...

Longblondeandblueeyes Sat 09-Nov-19 14:54:16

Yeah, that's really weird.

BumbleBeee69 Sat 09-Nov-19 14:58:56

I don't think you'd have to be described as jealous to not be happy with this choice of tattoo... it's such a strange choice of tattoo.. particularly as it's not someone infamous like Marilyn Monroe.. or the inspirational Rosa Parks .. or even Betty Boop... hmm

it's a random woman.. and yes every time someone sees it they will ask.. is this your wife ? No?

then surely the next obvious question is... THEN who is it ????? confused

ActualHornist Sat 09-Nov-19 15:12:32

My husband has a woman’s face - one of those traditional types.

I can’t say it ever occurred to me to have any feelings over I like it or I don’t like it. I dislike photo realistic tattoos anyway so I’d dislike it on that front.

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