So exh left me for another woman in April 2017, our divorce we finalised in January 2018, went through family court for 2 years re his contact with the kids because of domestic violence- the order for that was finalised last month
He has been in a new relationship since August at the earliest- told me about it in late September because he’s planning on moving over an hour away to be with her, that then threw all the plans for contact with the kids up in the air because of the distance- he didn’t see the issue even though he was changing everything and led to a very fraught day at court trying to get an agreement in place.
Yesterday he text me and told me he’s now engaged and getting married in 4 months time.
It’s left me feeling totally bereft and I don’t understand why
I don’t want him, I have no feelings for him so why am I so bothered?
I admit I do feel like he’s trying to replace me, he refuses to see our kids alone now, she has to be there at all times so our eldest is refusing to go
I feel so so sad for the family that’s been lost, the father the kids don’t have and I want him to wake up and realise he’s losing his kids even though I know he won’t.
This woman knows nothing of our history or that he even had to go to court to get what limited contact he does have- social services stopped him seeing the kids in 2017 and he’s only been having direct contact since june this year.
Why do I feel so awful? How do I stop?
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QuestionableDanceMoves · 08/11/2019 23:17
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