Could I ask for some friendly words, please?

ASmallBoxofChocolateBunnies · 2019-10-09 19:01:18

Hello. I'm most likely joining the ranks of those who never expected to be posting a thread like this. My husband of over 20 years has, most probably, just left me. I say most probably because there may be some hope. But I suspect not. I'd rather not give too much detail, as I know he sometimes browses, as do some friends. I am along standing poster, well, reader really, but have resurrected a rather frivolous name change for this. Things have been a bit odd for a while, but I was completely not expecting this. We were so solid, and it all seems to have fallen apart in such a short time. We have children I need to not know about this for a fair while. I know I have to do it for them, but the idea of keeping up the pretence is just, well, awful. We had such a solid ground, and now I am on quicksand. I don't know what to do with myself. I really want my mum but she died years ago. I have read on here people saying how hard it is when the person you would normally turn to for comfort and support is actually the person causing the hurt.I never appreciated quite how gut-wrenching that is. And it does hurt, such a lot. If anyone has a few moments just to chat for a bit I would be very grateful. Can't have phone conversations for now as children around. And if I disappear, it will be because they've come in. I would like to have somewhere to touch base, as it were, if that's ok. Thank you.

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