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He hasn't spoke ...would yo bother texting him?

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sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 18:20:24

Guy I'm seeing it's always on his terms.
When he wants to chat I drop everything and I'm there.
Last week he was really chatty this week it's like I'm constantly chasing him to talk.
Today he didn't say a word so I text him at 4pm and he gave me two word replies so I jokingly said "ha ha man of many words"
He replied battery is really low and work is manic ..
I replied .."oh no hope it flys over "
He read and didn't reply
(Has been on WhatsApp all the time so clearly not that manic )
What was his excuse yesterday and Monday.
Basically it's me most of the time initiating conversation
He finishes work at 7
Would you text again later ?
Or wait for him to text me now?

Goawayquickly Wed 09-Oct-19 18:23:33

He doesn't sound very interested in you. No, I wouldn't text him. It can only be on his terms if you allow it. Set your own terms

AnneLovesGilbert Wed 09-Oct-19 18:25:05

No. He’s not that into you.

Srictlybakeoff Wed 09-Oct-19 18:25:26

Don’t text him , and make yourself unavailable next time he wants to chat.

PillarOfSalt Wed 09-Oct-19 18:25:45

I wouldn’t trust WhatsApp. Dh’s constantly says he’s online when he’s not (he’s shown me and it’s definitely true).

Some people just don’t like messaging and prefer face to face contact. If he’s good when you’re together and reliable then I wouldn’t worry. If he’s not then bin him off, not worth the worry.

sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 18:27:42

All weekend he was messaging lots...he text me all day Saturday and sunday.
Initiating conversation and then he's on his quiet spell now.
Sometimes I think he must talk to a few girls and it's whoever gets his attention that day.

Equalityumber Wed 09-Oct-19 18:32:15

Raise your standards and dump this guy.

sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 18:39:39

It makes me feel shitty when we have days Like this.
I feel invisible today

forumdonkey Wed 09-Oct-19 18:42:03

Do you ever see him?

ODFOx Wed 09-Oct-19 18:43:47

Why would he message you when he's at work?
Wait until he's home and stop chasing when he's busy! I would ignore chatty texts from DH when I'm working. It's not the time.

Chloemol Wed 09-Oct-19 18:44:31

Don’t text him

SevenStones Wed 09-Oct-19 18:45:30

Don't text him.

Make it on your terms for a change. Don't go running next time he wants to see you.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Wed 09-Oct-19 18:46:35

When he wants to chat I drop everything and I'm there

Well stop that for a start.

Icantbelieveitsnotnutter Wed 09-Oct-19 18:50:00

Let him chase you wink

Glitterb Wed 09-Oct-19 18:51:28

Do you ever see each other or is this a new relationship which is mainly text?

I would take a step back, often relationships like this fizzle out

DarkNightDelight Wed 09-Oct-19 18:51:37

Sounds like he's not that into you, I'd take a step back. It's very unhealthy that it's making you feel like this.
Remember who you are and don't give anyone permission to make you feel invisible x

sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 18:53:02

We've seen each about 8 times so far.
It's just the inconsistency that gets me.
I never know which day it's going to be.
Last night he messaged quite a bit but today I might as well be invisible to him.

sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 18:53:46

I try and think of funny things to chat about and today nothing.
He didn't start work till 11 and still not even a text.

CarolDanvers Wed 09-Oct-19 18:54:10

He messages you when he hasn't got anything better to do, simple as that. I'm not being mean, I have been on the receiving end of this too.

tinyvulture Wed 09-Oct-19 18:56:17

It could be a sign he isn’t that in to you. Or it may be that he just doesn’t think about messaging in the same way, and is comfortable with longer gaps. Could you bring it up next time you see him? If other things are good, it’s a shame to bin him off over this. Your call, tho. If you think this is likely to do your head in going forwards, maybe better to bin him off before you get in too deep?

MarianaMoatedGrange Wed 09-Oct-19 19:00:47

I wouldn’t trust WhatsApp. Dh’s constantly says he’s online when he’s not (he’s shown me and it’s definitely true)

Really? I've never known about that. How can it show you online when you're not?

OP leave him to contact you, and keep it short if you chat. Don't drop everything like you've been doing.

sunshineonarsinyday Wed 09-Oct-19 19:04:44

I'm deffo not going to text him tonight or I will desperate.
He already loves the fact I'm so into him.
It's going to be hard not to text him.

FredaFox Wed 09-Oct-19 19:07:03

My gut says he’s just not that into you but I’d also say he’s at work, leave him alone, I can’t always reply to friends as I’m busy and it drives me mad that they get impatient and chase me for a reply

squiglet111 Wed 09-Oct-19 19:10:34

Maybe he actually is really busy? He texts you in evening and weekend when not at work, so clearly when at work he's too busy to text. So stop over thinking it and wait for him to text. He already told you he was busy... Do you not believe him?

pinkyredrose Wed 09-Oct-19 19:11:59

Why do you drop everything for him? Maybe he enjoys keeping you dangling.

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