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Is he doing this on purpose?

(12 Posts)
SecondMaid Mon 13-Aug-07 14:24:29

I have been seeing a man for around 8 months, everything has been good between us, he is a single parent (as am I) so we do have a lot in common and alot of understanding for each other.

This is I'm starting to think he's taking the mick a bit, I bought his son a bike pump and this weekend I went around and his son told me that his tyres were flat again, I asked where the bike pump was and my partner said he'd lost it, the same thing has happened with lots of stuff I have bought them or taken around, I bought him a dvd player for his birthday and he said he'd lost the remote, I had two sets of cordless phones so I gave him one set (2 BT cordless phones and the charge base) and he said hes lost one of them.

And then I took his son a bag of little mega bloks warriors that my kids said he could have and he seemed over the moon with them, the week after however he told me he's "Lost" all of them.

What annoys me more is that they laugh when they say they've lost stuff, like the bike pump for instance, I said "how do you lose a big bike pump like that?" and partner burst out laughing and said he didnt know but they dont seem to care.

I know its only minor but its starting to grate on me a bit.

clumsymum Mon 13-Aug-07 14:30:23

Is their house such a tip? After all, you don't take cordless phones out of the house, do you, so it must be there somewhere.

First, stop giving them things, then you won't get bothered by them losing stuff.
Second, one quiet evening when you and the bloke are chatting, ask him if he needs help organising his life a bit "After all, you do seem to lose so many things".

Thirdly, decide how much this bothers you (esp if he rejects the idea of getting life a bit more organised). Maybe it's time to pull back a bit.

magsi Mon 13-Aug-07 14:31:27

Sounds a bit strange to me. How old is his son? I think it would get on my wick aswell, especially as he doesn't seem to care when something goes 'missing'.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ Mon 13-Aug-07 14:37:54

Is he flogging it on E-bay ??

SecondMaid Mon 13-Aug-07 14:42:14

His house is quite messy and stuff gets broken easily as well as lost. I have asked if he wants help organising stuff better and he said he did, we spent a whole weekend getting rid of junk from his house and completely tidying up/organising things and then a few days later it was just as bad! Even so far as empty packets being in the fridge/cupboard. He was once trying to shove new shopping into the fridge without taking out empty sauce bottles, orange cartons and numerous empty wrappers.

I dont buy them expensive stuff anymore but it worries me that he just doesnt seem to have much common sense.

SecondMaid Mon 13-Aug-07 14:43:25

I did wonder if he was selling stuff on ebay but I've never found anything when I've looked.

I once made him a dvd full of his favourite albums etc, a day later I asked him if he liked it and he said he'd lost it, it had taken me ages to make.

clumsymum Mon 13-Aug-07 14:45:06

Hmmmm, repeat what I said about pulling back on the relationship .

BreeVanDerCampLGJ Mon 13-Aug-07 14:46:47

He has no respect for you, or anyone else.


SecondMaid Mon 13-Aug-07 14:50:27

he's the same when he comes to my house, his little boy wiped poo on the bathroom wall because he couldnt find the toilet roll and my partner seemed to purposely make as much mess as possible.

I'm not a clean freak and I do like him alot, and his little boy is lovely but I really cant be bothered with someone who is going to be hardwork, I dont have the patience for it.

clumsymum Mon 13-Aug-07 14:54:09

SecondMaid, tell him that you can't do with him if he's going to be hard work.

I'm assuming he isn't widowed (sorry if he is), but might this be behind the reason why he's single?

BreeVanDerCampLGJ Mon 13-Aug-07 15:00:27

He sounds like a real catch.

boogiewoogie Mon 13-Aug-07 15:12:09

Your partner doesn't seem to have much respect for you or anything that you do. Have you spoken to him about this? I would have lost my patience a long time ago.

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