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Would you believe him? *title edited by MN*

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:24

So he's away for work for 3 months in the Netherlands, we werent official before he went but he's been saying we will continue when he's back he really misses me etc.
He's met a few people out there and there have been touristy pictures of him. I went on his page and saw that it was all hidden now which I thought odd but didn't think any more of.
A girl came up on my 'recommended friends' as a mutual friend of mine and his.
I clicked on her page and low and behold it says they are in a relationship. Absolutely flabbergasted, because it says they got into a relationship a week after they met.
However, he's been texting me saying he misses me and cant wait to see me etc..
I screenshotted it and admittedly sent an angry message.
He replied very calmly saying they had 'fraped' him, and claimed he couldnt log in.
I felt so stupid and apologised, and he was kind about it. He wasnt défensive or anything at all.
But it still says on her page theyre together and why is his stuff hidden :/
Do people who are almost 30 really do frapes ? Not sure what to believe, I wanna believe it's true but does it sound like a lie ?

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:25

This girl is already in another country too. I just find it highly bizarre and child-like to say you are in a 'Facebook official' relationship with someone youve known a week ?

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Itsallgonewoowoo · 24/09/2019 07:26

Contact the girl?

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CmdrCressidaDuck · 24/09/2019 07:26

Firstly, please never say that "f" word again, it's vile.

Secondly, he's feeding you an utter load of bollocks and you're his bit on the side. I'm sorry.

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HillRunner · 24/09/2019 07:28

Yep, it's a vile phrase, which speaks volumes about anyone who uses it.

He's lying, obviously.

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:28

Sorry, couldn't really think of another name.. He was so calm and nice about it, he wasnt defensive as some people are when they are angry.
I really dont know, I just think that's disgusting to lead me on by text when hes got with someone else after a week ?!

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Helpmedecide123 · 24/09/2019 07:29

He's lying to you.

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SunsetYorks · 24/09/2019 07:29

I’d contact the girl

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:29

It's not only vile to me, it also is to her. Because even if he's 'with her', he has been texting me and making 'promises' to me behind her back.
I just find it bizarre. She's no longer even in the country and he knew her about a week ??

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:30

I dont really want to message her in case ive got it all wrong and look like a massive psycho :/

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AliciaQuays · 24/09/2019 07:32

No. Just ignore him. Don’t interact

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Myriade · 24/09/2019 07:38

Even if someone has tempered with his FB profile, it doesn’t explain the fact that girl saying they are a couple.

I would forget about him and block him. I would also contact the girl and warn her.

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istolethisusernametoo · 24/09/2019 07:38

If you don't want to contact her for her side then you will either have to accept that he's telling the truth or not and finish with him.

It sounds unlikely to me that both of their accounts have been hacked and someone has gone to all of this trouble to make it look like they are in a fake relationship. If I were you then I would ask her. If she genuinely thinks she's in a relationship with him then you both deserve better than him.

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:40

Yeah, I mean shes apparently in the US now, why would you say youre in an LDR with someone who youve known a week and youll likely never live in the same country as ? 🙄
Yeah, youd think she'd have taken it down but it's still there. Plus the fact that his is now suddenly hidden.
Urgh, that's absolutely vile, snakey behaviour.

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:42

I need to think it over. I really want to believe him, because I guess I dont want to believe that people are actually that vile :/

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sorrythisusernameisinuse · 24/09/2019 07:43

You keep Saying it's only been a week but it's probably been a lot longer. Him having his fb tampered with dosent explain why she has it and it seems very convenient that his went completely blank when hers says a relationship. Be very very wary

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Thingsdogetbetter · 24/09/2019 07:45

'Fraped' is when some goes on your fb page (If it's left open or they hack) and writes stuff on your page. The 'in a relationship' status is not on his page, but on hers - so he wasn't fraped! As far as I can remember, if person A puts 'in a relationship with person B' then person B has to verify this before it can actually go on up on A's page. Otherwise I'd be 'in a relationship' with brad pitt! So he's talking absolute bollox!

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:45

They were only in the Netherlands together for about 10 days, he didnt know her till he went there. She's now left and he's still there.
Exactly. How he can lie through his teeth is sick. Probably thinks he can keep me as a side piece till he's back :/

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lyingwanker · 24/09/2019 07:47

How do you know he's only known her for 10 days though? How do you know what he's telling you is the truth?

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PurpleDaisies · 24/09/2019 07:47

He’s obviously lying. There really isn’t another reasonable explanation.
Block and delete. You weren’t official when he went so I wouldn’t necessarily be too surprised this happened. The lying is really low though.

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:48

I don't, I just did a bit of fb stalking to see if I could find anything. It actually said she had a boyfriend right up until they met. Maybe she cheated on him or dumped him for the guy :/

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Goatrider · 24/09/2019 07:48

If you can't see his profile at all then he may have blocked you.

I don't understand how you can know so much about this woman just from her Facebook profile. How do you know how long they've known each other or be so sure she's not going back to where he is?

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:50

The thing is he could have been a man about it and said look, we arent official and i'm open to meeting others out there, it's best we go our seperate ways etc.
Claiming to have feelings for me then having a 'girlfriend' a week after ?
Continuing to send me mushy texts up until yesterday ?!

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JohnnyHallidayVitToujours · 24/09/2019 07:50

NL isn't that far. Why don't you offer to go over for a weekend and see how he reacts?

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JohnnyHallidayVitToujours · 24/09/2019 07:52

Mind you, I would also be tempted to post her a screen shot of his mushy texts to you and tell her you feel a bit sorry for her.

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Blueandlilac · 24/09/2019 07:52

I can see his profile but just in a restricted way, but I still have him as a friend. Youre right, I can't, I just saw she had written stuff about travelling in the US then going back home to Canada.
I know it's stupid to stalk but just trying to find what I can to see if hes lying or not.

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