HI, my DH is rather prone to 'black moods' which can last a few weeks. Iam trying to break the cycle of how we deal with this.
A few days ago he got up and would only speak to me in monosyllabic answers when I spoke to him, unless he wants to point out something I have done/ not done in the house
Normally i would be unable to stop myself from losing my temper and it would end in a big row, lots of crying etc etc.
I am trying not to give him the attention he seems to be seeking through this kind of behaviour (in a toddler type of way). Would really like to give him "positive attention" but he isn't showing any signs of doing/saying anything remotely nice (or even normal) or even smiling
As he wouldn't speak to me i sent him this email :
Hi, hope your day is going well, I just wanted to say that I really meant it when I said I wanted to help, I know you hate confrontation so I won't pester you to talk to me,, but I am here if there is anything I can do.
love
*
and he replied:
I appreciate it. Thing is I feel distant and taken for granted at the moment (at home and work but mostly at work). I am trying to work through the current situation but frankly I am not very happy.
Thanks for the note though.
I may have to take drastic action to rectify things at work but as you have shown in the past ? you are of the grin and bear it opinion so I feel that I cannot discuss it with you.
I am sure it will pan out positively in the end.
sorry for long post, any advice/ ideas on how to move forward would be great
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Help, DH is not talking to me
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hellish · 11/08/2007 14:30
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