I suspect my ex is trying to manipulate how my daughter feels about me - in fact he has said "I will tell her exactly who you really are", and made similar threats.
He seems to be acting this out. For example, recently she started going on about my stress - and then I got a mail from him telling me I should not be rude to him, but he understood that I must be stressed about my forthcoming wedding (not the cause of our split!) Not sure where I was rude to him.
I think this is one of the reasons she isn't talking to me like she used to (I can imagine him saying "dont talk to mummy when she is stressed with the wedding" - sounding like he is kind and thoughtful, and really planting ideas in ger head)
I am not stressed about a simple wedding, mostly I am not much stressed (for a mummy) although I am sometimes stressed by her behaviour, which is always bad after a weekend with her dad - she is 8 and bit a friend last week because she wanted a toy the other had! When I discussed this with her dad (I thought lack of sleep might be the issue) he told me that he had discussed it with her, and the other girl bit first (which most certainly was not the case, but is a story she made up later!) So nasty mammy punished her for it, but kind daddy understood it was not her fault at all.
Then he asked how I had punished her, I told him that I had put her to bed, and not let her read in bed. He then said he would never stop her reading as it is a fundamental right.
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midgemagnet · 09/08/2007 15:39
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