My other half and I are always arguing about money. We each think we are hard done by.
So I thought I'd lay the facts in front of a mumsnet jury to see what you think.
My spouse D and I are married, with 2 boys, 7 and 3.
I have a normal office job, and earn about 80k. D has a small business, with a turnover of around 80k.
The eldest is in school and the youngest is in nursery 3 days a week, with a nanny for part of the other 2 days, and D fills the gaps.
I sometimes do the odd dropoff, and get back from work in time to help with bathtime and do bedtime.
I pay for:
all childcare, nanny, babysitting - 750 pm
all holidays - average 650 pm (that's only 2 holidays per year)
all going out for dinner, cinema - 240 pm
all car servicing etc - 120pm
house bills (inc food) - I pay about 1400 per month and D about 450
D handles school runs, cooking, tidying, organising school uniform, buying presents for children's parties, organising things to do on the weekend, and so on.
D also has a hobby / sport / obsession, which takes up a good deal of time and money.
Due to the nature of the business and the sport, it's difficult to know how much the latter is costing. Think of a motorsport enthusiast who also owns a garage. If they use the garage staff, supplies, and tools etc to maintain their fleet of racing cars, it's difficult to separate legitimate business costs from motorsport costs. However, D has estimated it as about £2k per month.
My gripe is that every penny of my £4500 salary is accounted for every month, with almost none left to spend on myself or save. I'm always in the red by the 15th. D on the other hand, spends an unknown amount (but probably around 2k) on the aforementioned sport, £450 on house bills, and then has none left to pay for anything else.
Am I right to feel hard done by?
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Money arguments - am I right to feel hard done by?
User1336468 · 11/09/2019 18:09
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