I think I need someone to talk some sense into me so any gentle advice welcome.
I split up with my cheating husband of 20yrs about 3 years ago. Pretty hideous divorce and I haven’t wanted to date or anything since. He’s abandoned the teenage kids too so they’ve been my priority up till now. No where near brave enough to try OLD, feel very much past it at 47 !! So I really wasn’t looking for anything.
A few months ago by chance I started chatting to a man online. We hit it off, have met 5 times, kissing only, feels like there’s a spark ? He lives 90 miles away. We chat loads on WhatsApp throughout the day, both seem to be very open about stuff.
He’s currently going through an unpleasant divorce, and obviously preoccupied sometimes.
But it is feeling at the moment like he’s giving mixed signals. I’m not sure if I’m just so out of practice I’m overthinking it.
I know I really like him, and maybe that’s making me needy ?? I’m just scared of making an idiot of myself, so I back off at times too.
One day he’ll be very sweet, we sometimes speak on the phone all evening until the early hours. He’ll say lovely things all day and I do too. Then another day, he’s very abrupt and only send a couple of messages. I totally understand he’s going through stuff, and don’t want or need 100’s of messages every day. But it feels a bit like being on a see saw.
Example - last night we were arranging to meet up at the weekend. We had a real laugh and he tells me how much he likes me. Can’t wait to spk to me tomorrow etc. Then this morning he messaged hello, I replied and he hasn’t even read the message despite being on and off the app all day.
Am I being thick, needy or still not tough enough inside for all this stuff ?
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