So background, split with ex almost 3 years ago. I left and went into a women's refuge. He was emotionally/mentally/financially abusive. Very malnipitive and calculating in his words and actions. We only really became amicable about 8/9 months ago. All was fine until he told me he had a girlfriend and now they are no longer amicable. He is blunt, argumentative and difficult. Yesterday I asked for helped as our DS was ill and couldn't go to nursery I don't get paid sick pay and he knows this. So I asked if he could have him a few hours while I went into work and grabbed my laptop so I could work from home. All hell broke lose and he became nasty tw8sting things and saying why should he help me out. I explained if I don't have money how can I pay bills etc so this would impact our son too so I didn't think I was being unreasonable to ask for help. Anyway then later on he begins calling me all sorts and saying he wants out DS more. I say no because he almost has him half the nights in the month and I said I don't think it's in DS interests to keep being passed between us when our routine is good. We have had this routine since I left him. Then he starts saying oh I will go for full custody if you don't let me have him more. I said you won't get it and he said oh I wouldn't be so sure. Logically I think he would get 50/50 max but he's got in my head and I'm thinking what does he think he has on me. The only thing I can think about is my depression or anxiety which I'm on tablets for and it's controlled. I'm a good mum and put my DS first always. Unless he makes up stuff about me and become malnipulitive. I saw a thread on here about the women's ex taking their DD and I could imagine him doing this and then the courts ruled in his favour! So I'm worrying and thinking could be make stuff up?
Sorry if this seems like in rambling I'm just worried and upset. My DM thinks this is just another form of control to get me to give him more days. Anyone got any advice or help?
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Why is he so sure he could get full custody?
Defeated10 · 11/09/2019 13:05
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