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So ive just thrown my dinner all over DH

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jenk1 · 07/08/2007 17:47

i just picked up my plate and threw it all over him in [anger]

I have been asking him for security/gates since we moved here, the back garden is open and i have kids knocking on the door 100 times a day and staring in our window.
dd has been mithering for crisps before dinner and i said no, i turned round and he,s given her a packet and then she asked for another one AND HE GAVE IT HER AAARRGGHH SO FLIIPIN ANNOYED OVER THAT

So i have just cooked dinner and he,s eating it, there is and im not joking a queue of kids waiting to use the trampoline in our garden and ive had enough,so i asked him to have a word, he slams his dinner down, i kept my temper, he comes back in and i say well and he says ive told them, but they are still there.
so i say well i will tell them then, he says no and gives me a filthy look and i say please what have i got to do to get you to put gates up, and he screams yes screams, i never effing give him any time to do anything.
I was so annoyed, he,s been depressed for ages and ive put up with his shit for months, rubbish being emptied all over the garden, not being arsed about anything but this was the last straw so i threw my dinner over him.
i wish i hadnt have done that but i was so angry.
ive come on here to calm down.
feel now.

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NormaStanleyFletcher · 07/08/2007 17:49


Breathe

I probably would have done the same.
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hertsnessex · 07/08/2007 17:52

why dont you just get quotes - show him etc and then do it.

cx

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jenk1 · 07/08/2007 17:55

oh no, thats not allowed. ive phoned up places, too bloody expensive he says which they are.
my dad used to be a joiner and did everything like that but he has bad arthritis now and cant do that.

i will have to get to him, in a way that works, evil laugh emoticon needed.

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moondog · 07/08/2007 17:57

How long have you been asking him for?

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hertsnessex · 07/08/2007 17:57

buy the wood etc - start making them yourself - whilst making a pigs ear out of it!! - stop doing the washing, cooking etc "as you simply have to think about your dc's safety first" and surely he will take the bait!

cx

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babywhiting · 07/08/2007 17:59

just read oit to my dp and he found it hilarious. personally i'd get a company to put some in and get them to send the bill to your dh. Then whats he gonna do!!!!

dp says this is the worst place to tell cos its full of women and all one sided!!!!!!!!!!

either that or throw water bombs at them all!!!!! i'm sure they'll go!!!!!!

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babywhiting · 07/08/2007 18:00

my dp just said go u[pstairs and shout out the window it a great norfolk accent "GET OFF MY LAND" HA HA HA HA

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Peachy · 07/08/2007 18:00

Ah jenk you two 9all) ahe been through hell lately haven't you?

If that's the only way you snap girl, then you've the atience of an angel and no mistake

I never got that e-mail btw!

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whiskeyandbeer · 07/08/2007 18:04

maybe you should take some anger managment classes.

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jenk1 · 07/08/2007 18:05

i will have to send you another one PC.
i love that idea of shouting GERROFF MY LAND in a manc/liam gallagher accent!!!!

no being serious though, our house is at the bottom of the garden and the path is at the top and everyone nosies in and yesterday im sat eating my cheese butties and ds mate is stood at the window staring in, i did lose it a bit and screamed at ds to "get that stalker away from my window"!!!!

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moondog · 07/08/2007 18:06

How long have you been asking him to dio it?

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jenk1 · 07/08/2007 18:06

since march of this year!

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moondog · 07/08/2007 18:08

OMFG
Completely unacceptable.
Selfish lazy fucker.

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Peachy · 07/08/2007 18:09

Jenk i can record gerroff me land in a strong zummerzet accent if you'd like, lol

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jenk1 · 07/08/2007 18:13

yes i should play it through loud speakers in different accents hahahaha.

i dont think i need angermanagement, this is just the end of a long long line of me being very patient and i snapped today which im not proud of but he has come upstairs and said he,s sorry for shouting.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 07/08/2007 18:17

Can i suggest a cheap deterrent?

A sprinkler system, appropriately placed. When trespassers are about, flick the switch/tap et voila

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whiskeyandbeer · 07/08/2007 18:22

i'm not so sure, i am of the opinion that any kind of physical abuse in a relationship is unacceptable regardless of gender.
would people be laughing about it and calling you a "selfish lazy fucker" if he had come home to find that you had not done something he expected you to do and then threw a plate full of food at you?

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GoingThroughChanges · 07/08/2007 18:23

Well, I've been waiting on a wall being built around my yard for 2 years now

The worst of it??? MY dh is a builder

However, we live in a rural area & we have a hedge, the wall was simply to replace the hedge.

Are your children in danger? Could they run out into the road & get hurt?

I know this is the latest of a lot of problems though & your dh is being very unreasonable. It would take some serious pushing for me to throw my dinner over my dh... what the hell has this man done to you?

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kittywits · 07/08/2007 18:24

Ha ha good for you

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GoingThroughChanges · 07/08/2007 18:25

whiskeyandbeer.. you have no idea what you are talking about. You don't know the history.

You call a tipped plate of dinner "abuse"?

What planet are you on>

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whiskeyandbeer · 07/08/2007 18:25

having read goingthroughchanges post i'd like to say that if there are other factors at play here then i am unaware of them as they were not mentioned in this thread so i am basing my opinion solely on what has been written in here.

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princessmel · 07/08/2007 18:28

Oh dear

Could you not pursuade him to put up cheaper fence panels instead??

Or go and knock on the parents houses and ask them to tell their children not to wait and your window. It sounds very annoying.

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aloha · 07/08/2007 18:34

When I was pregnant I threw the contents of a can of beans at my dh. Ah, hormones!

I can see how desperately frustrating this is. Do you have any money of your own? I'd get someone in, or at least start ordering the wood. Do something to try and get things moving.

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macmama73 · 07/08/2007 18:48

My trick is to start doing the work myself, and keep phoning him with really stupid questions. Drives him nuts, so he takes over.

Or I casually mention that I have asked my friends DH to do the work. His ego can't take it, some other man coming onto his patch and pissing on his cabbages. Always works.

Have never thrown food at DH, but can understand it, considering the provocation!

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Tinker · 07/08/2007 18:51

If you can afford it, just organise for someone to do it

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