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How do you NOT worry about your loved ones? Hoping for some new ideas....

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Mainlyhappysometimessad Tue 07-Aug-07 17:16:53

Basic problem is that I worry too much about something bad happening to my DH.

He has a motorbike, I was brought up to think them very dangerous and so now I focus worries on him on the bike. He's a very safe driver, always wears proper kit etc. and is going to take advanced course etc. but when he's out I can't stop all these images of him being killed, how awful it'd be etc. and so if he's not back when I expect it I panic. It's just really hard because he's the most precious thing to me and I can't bear the thought of anything happening to him.

So how do people not go crazy worrying about their loved ones? I know there's risk in everything so this extreme reaction doesn't seem quite right. Is it an OCD-type of thing (I am a bit of a control freak) or am I just stuck with worrying?

All thoughts welcomed!

bogwobbit Tue 07-Aug-07 17:19:28

I used to worry like mad too.
Now I set aside 5 minutes a day (usually before I go to bed) to have a worry / pray for my loved ones. Sounds daft but it sets the rest of the day free not to worry, iykwim.
Of course, the minute one of them is 5 minutes late home, I back in a panic again, but it does help me most of the time.

hurtwife Tue 07-Aug-07 19:26:55

I think we all have the capability to worry too much and it is difficult not too sometimes with everything in the world.

You sound sensible and already know the logical thing - he is safe ect and you know there are far worse things (well not much), but you wasting time worrying will not stop it happening.

My son is a bit of a worrier especially at night and i do find it hard to stop it esculating out of control. He will come up with all sorts of bad things that could happen to his family and friends.

Not much advice but wanted to support you.

GoodGollyMissMolly Tue 07-Aug-07 20:15:43

I can completely sympathise with how you feel, I have the same worrying and nagging worries when my DH is out and about.

I haven't really got any advice, but wanted to show my spport.

Also if you feel you may have an OCD type condition, go and see your GP he will be able to help you, even if it is to lend a sympathetic ear.

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