8 weeks ago I found the Kik app on DH phone. We have been together 12 years. Turns out he’d been on the group chats there, ended up meeting a woman who performed a sex act on him. It was once. I didn’t find any evidence of the sex act, DH was very forthcoming and spilled all. I’ve asked question after question and had answers to them. He is remorseful etc (happened last year when I was 5 months pregnant with baby number 2 - usual pattern 🙄)
I asked him to leave etc and at the moment I am seeing how things are. He is mostly at home now but I do still occasionally ask him to go when I need space. His reasons for going on Kik were that we were in separate bedrooms as toddler DD was in bed with me, he had depression due to loss of a job (but not excusing his behaviour whatsoever), he was lonely, we never had couple time (true), it was escapism. He is currently in counselling and trying to make things right.
Now. From the hurt or whatever I decided to download a dating app. Well it certainly opened my eyes (so many local married men on it!) It sure if it was due to curiosity, attention or what.
I have ended up meeting a man. Have seen him 3 times now and we have had a great time, sometimes I feel guilty but mostly I don’t feel anything. It’s terribly exciting and I can’t wait to see him again.
Thing is I don’t believe my marriage is over. I do see myself spending the rest of my life with DH. So why the fuck am I doing this? I think I’m justifying it to myself due to DH behaviour. I know it’s wrong. But a part of me is thinking life is too short. I don’t want a relationship with this man, it’s sex and it’s a bit of fun.
It’s all a big cliche.
Come on MN words of wisdom. I can’t be the only person in this position?!
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Cheated on and now a cheater
Sleepathon · 15/08/2019 10:33
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