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Beckiee12 · 14/08/2019 14:44

I dont know what I'm looking for from posting this but I have so many emotions and I dont know what to do. I've been with my partner a few years and we have a child together. I also have 2 kids from a previous relationship who dont have contact with their dad since he walked out. Our relationship hasnt been great the past few months.. no arguments just seemed to drift apart. It all became too much earlier and we had an argument which led to him ending it with me. He is completely ignoring me now and isnt answering wether or not hes going to even stay in our child's life.

I dont really know what to do, I'm trying to keep it together for the kids but in all honesty I just want to break down. I have no friends no family apart from him I dont see or talk to anyone. I just feel like my whole life has been ripped apart I love him and I just dont know how I will cope on my own.

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mommabearxx · 14/08/2019 14:58

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So sorry to hear this. Can I ask if the relationship was abusive at all?

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Beckiee12 · 14/08/2019 15:01

It wasnt abusive he was just a hot head and would get wound up over the slightest thing

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oreoxoreo · 14/08/2019 15:02

So sorry you are in this situation, but you know you are strong and you will cope!! You cope once when the dad of your two kids left and you can cope now even better because you know what stands in front of you. You have your three children - I envy you - and you are a woman stronger than you think, you don't need a man to be happy, stay strong and your head high and proud and he smile even if fake smile, and you will see he will come back crawling!! If not he wasn't worth it!

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Thatagain · 14/08/2019 16:55

Wow this is so sad to hear. I know from my own experience that haveing no family and friends is the worst in this situation. I do not know you're ins and outs but what I do know is if you can take one day at a time with a big fat smile and a fake form of happiness you will get through it. I wouldn't except him back though unless he really makes you feel secure and loved. Us mums have no choice sometimes we have to pretend that we are happy for our children.

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ButterflyOne1 · 14/08/2019 17:00

This is all very new from the sounds of it so don't expect any answers now, especially from strangers on a forum.

Give him some space and let him calm down. Don't contact him again, give him some space then contact him tomorrow and ask to have a calm conversation.

You can then find out what has caused you to drift apart and talk about the future. Don't assume he won't be in your child's life just because the other Dad walked away.

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Bluntness100 · 14/08/2019 17:02

What was the argument about that caused him to end it op?

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Jesse70 · 14/08/2019 17:11

I would agree with butterfly 1 calm down it's just an argument people say things when they are angry. Wait until he has cooled off and talk then. If it's over then it's over u said drift apart so I'm assuming u also feel it's not great maybe the argument is what u both needed to vent

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Beckiee12 · 14/08/2019 17:34

We argued because my eldest son has been playing up lately. We took the kids on holiday the whole time he was arguing complaining and being rude so my partner told him off but I didnt agree with the way he told him as in probably too soft and it just turned into a massive argument and he walked out saying he couldn't do it anymore.