I think my DH has checked out of our marriage. The problem is, I have opened up very good lines of communication with him IMO and he swears blind that our marriage is fine and that he loves me. He even told me that I am asking him the same question until I get the answer I want from him (which would be "no, I don't love you and it's over") some kind of reverse psychology I think there is something very, very wrong here and I have put my heart and openness on the line with him. Been together 2 decades and have teenagers.
What would you think if your 50-year old husband:
Increased the amount of corporate travel he does. He does a lot of European travel and it is now about 10 days a month.
On top of this increased the amount of nights out he has.
Joined a gym and health club next to his work but didn't tell me. I just get the sweaty clothes in a bag to wash. Goes to the health club and gets his back and chest, ears, nose etc. waxed. I didn't even know he does this. Sometimes he leaves his work computer here and if I lift the flap his appointments come up on the screen before the login (which is password protected and can't take a look) and I can see his gym classes and hair removal appointment!
Took off his wedding ring 3 months ago as it "gets in the way".
Used to watch TV with me, cuddle up on sofa, now sits in opposite chair or other room.
Never once asks me what I have been doing.
My spider senses are up and I can clearly see there is an issue here. We've argued, I've cried and I've been very, very honest with him about I think there is something going on, what's up with him etc. He swears blind there is nothing going on and he loves me. So, WTF.
I can find no evidence whatsoever of a tangible affair and he has passed me his phone and other devices to look at. Still, I feel as if I am waiting around for something to happen and I feel stupid. I have DC to look after and other stuff going on and I feel like I am in limbo with his behaviour.
I feel like I am sitting around waiting for my marriage to end. I don't want it to, but I am slowly eroding. If something comes out I am going to feel like a grade A fool having been lied to for ages and I am not sure I will recover from that. I sound paranoid don't I, but please read list above!
Any advice? I feel like I am going mad.
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Am I waiting around for my marriage to end?
DeputyDoog · 14/08/2019 14:37
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