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Should I stay with him?

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Nced Tue 13-Aug-19 21:27:52

Yesterday OH admitted he has been watching porn and was thinking about cheating but wouldn't do it. Yesterday he stayed at this parents house but today he came round to get son (I was about to go to work). He said when he came to drop son off he wanted to talk so I agreed (just wanted to make him go so I could go to work).

So we spoke and he said he was sorry (loads of times actually) and he won't think about it again. So my question is should I stay with him? Wwyd?

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 21:58:47

Oh give over!

I knew instantly it would be you!

Newmumma83 Tue 13-Aug-19 22:00:55

Huh? You two know each other?
Its your relationship it’s your choice i wouldn’t break up over a thought, but would want to know what’s making the urge to cheat more now than ever and work on that

Nced Tue 13-Aug-19 22:08:38

Knew it was who?

Dimebag10M Tue 13-Aug-19 22:08:53


Do you know OP?

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 22:14:57

It's the OP who's DP was assaulted twice ( the baby kidnapping) and then found a condom in his pants and he admitted wanting to cheat

Nced Tue 13-Aug-19 22:16:53

What? My OH wasn't assaulted and I didn't find a condom.

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 22:17:43

Apologies I've gotten mixed up

Sorry OP, just quite a few things flashed out and I should have checked

funnylittlefloozie Tue 13-Aug-19 22:18:30

How can anyone say they won't think about something again? That's nonsense. I would dump him, tbh, i think he sounds like someone who is messing with your head.

user1481840227 Tue 13-Aug-19 22:38:29

Watching porn wouldn't bother me. Saying he wanted to cheat would be a dealbreaker for me personally.
Had he got someone in mind to cheat with?
Or what was the context of the conversation?

Limt Tue 13-Aug-19 22:44:36

SparklyMagpie my first thought too.

Nced Tue 13-Aug-19 22:44:39

He said he wanted to tell me something and he told me. It doesn't bother me him watching porn. He said his friend (she likes him and always has done and when he was single she wouldn't listen to him saying he isn't interested. And I don't think she accepts he's taken now. But he said it would've been a mistake of he did cheat.

Needsomebottle Tue 13-Aug-19 22:48:46

He said when he came to drop son off he wanted to talk so I agreed (just wanted to make him go so I could go to work).

You don't sound like you care all that much? And I don't mean that horribly but if you and your OH are on the verge of splitting up surely you wouldn't want to just rush through that conversation? Do you want to be in this relationship?

EKGEMS Tue 13-Aug-19 22:54:23

So what does he want for being such a wonderful partner? A parade? A medal? A knighthood from Her Majesty? I'd probably laugh in his face and close and lock the door

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 23:28:01

Thank god it wasn't just me @Nced
But now after an update my radar is off again

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 23:28:19

Sorry that was meant for @

SparklyMagpie Tue 13-Aug-19 23:35:33

Bloody hell it was meant for @Limt

user1481840227 Wed 14-Aug-19 00:50:27

It's a strange thing to just unburden himself with if it was only a thought.

What is the background to this situation? Is there a lack of sex in the relationship? Is he using his confession as a way to shock you into thinking he might cheat so that you have sex with him? I've seen a few threads where guys do it for that reason. I can't think of any other reason

howdyalikemenow Wed 14-Aug-19 01:14:30

You again???

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