It was my sister's 30th birthday yesterday, but she was whisked off to a health spa with BIL, so I couldn't see her.
I have spoken to her today, and she is keen for me to come over with the boys to visit her. She lives 30 miles away, and I don't drive, so she asked if I could get a lift with my parents this morning.
I spoke to mum, who made excuses as to why she couldn't take us with her, so I have to make my own way over, which means I can get to my sister's just after 1pm.
Mum said that this will mean she can't take my sister out to lunch, so I said I wouldn't go if it was going to spoil their day. (I am going to a friends house this evening, so don't want to leave it much later)
I said I wouldn't go if it is going to ruin their plans, but my sister has been on the phone again & really wants me to come over. She has suggested to mum that we all go out to a country pub or something, where the children can play, but mum says that will be a nightmare.
I don't know whether I should go over or not now. My BIL has organised a suprise party for my sister tomorrow night, but she obviously has no idea about this, and I don't want her to think I am not bothering with her on her birthday, but I don't want to ruin my parents plans either.
Sound like your parents have planned some sort of surprise for her, but why won't they discuss it with you?
If you're OK with not seeing her until tomorrow, why not phone her and explain that your parents can't give you a lift today, so you'll try and get over to her in the next few days. If she asks why they can't give you a lift, just say you don't know, they didn't say.
awwww pink think its a bit inconsiderate for ur mum not to take in account that u want to see each other.....especially after losing ur nan a few weeks ago (hope ur holding well anyway x).idont realy have an answer to ur dilemma only that u could pretend to see her on sunday and then see her tomoz nite
Well I went, and my parents had already left by the time we arrived. They didn't go out for lunch anywhere, so my sister & myself had a chicken sandwich & a glass of champagne in her garden!
We had a nice afternoon, and I'm pleased I went.
God Pinkchampagne - I don't want to be rude about your mother but words fail me. Frankly I couldn't think of anything nicer as parent to have adult children (if you know what I mean) that get along with and care for each other.