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TinselAndKnickers Sun 28-Jul-19 22:11:49

Anyone else going through a breakup?

I'm a week into it. It was nearly 4 years together and it's ended because we lost communication and we just can't do it anymore, it's not the right time. He's said never say never and we've done the stuff swap over so I know I have to accept it and move on. But we love each other and have a lot of respect, so the goodbye was very hard to do. We might reconnect in future but for now we're NC.

Anyone else want a pity party/support thread?grin

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 20:58:13

Or that!

He wouldn’t but I don’t think I could resist if A put the moves on me. I still fancy him so much as well as miss him and love him. Siiiiigh.

Jonsnowsghost Wed 21-Aug-19 20:33:31

Or jump him 😅😅😅

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 20:10:46

Yeah that was wimpy! Maybe he thought you’d punch him!

Jonsnowsghost Wed 21-Aug-19 18:32:15

Argh wish I'd seen him, but also not. He's a coward for not knocking when he knew I was in, I don't know what he thinks i would have done?! He messaged me to say he'd posted them through my door and I was like, I know I was in

classedasarsehole Wed 21-Aug-19 17:53:14

I was dumpt for not being able to handle his farm, so we lived hour apart, and he was taxi driver, and does 60 hour plus all the accounts and shit! Then farm meetings, he only had Monday's off, then we didn't even guarantee that time together, his brother has wife doing all kids housewife, and the farm?
My ex was taxi accounts, farm, new course, and building another house, and his own house shit!

Just had no time it destroyed me tbh!
He was amazing

Mumcomehere Wed 21-Aug-19 17:42:31

@singleedition thank you, I am very happy that I made the decision.

I'm still a stalker and always will be lol, just because I like to torment myself I'm sure,but I know from previous experiences, the stalking wont last forever.

When I said dont contact me again he replied with .....ohhhhhhh, I went offline after that

singleedition Wed 21-Aug-19 17:38:30

That’ll teach me...gotta laugh or I’ll cry 😂😂

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 17:36:27

That’s for single poor you

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 17:36:05

Oh nooooo!

singleedition Wed 21-Aug-19 17:35:39

Well done @Mumcomehere what a huge step!

You should be super proud 👏👏👏

singleedition Wed 21-Aug-19 17:34:32

We’ve all been there herb!

I just let curiosity get the bet of me and started Instagram stalking his new lass. I literally just liked a photo from 2 years ago🙈

Brb, about to change my identity and move to Mexico 😂

Mumcomehere Wed 21-Aug-19 17:34:11

I have a new update, he read my mail and sent me a message, agreeing with everything I said, he admitted that the grass wasnt greener, I did deserve someone a lot better than him. I answered and told him I think he needs to go on a journey to find himself and I actually dont need a liar and cheat in my life, I wished him well and told him to never contact me again.

I have deleted every photo, and this is the start of my new life, feeling calm that I was the one who made closure. No doubt the nights will still be long, and I wont sleep, but I can honestly say, I moved a little bit up the mountain today

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 17:32:43

No I agree! But we recently binge watched that show together so you’ve made me saaaaaaaad

No it is very tragic

But it’s also very cliche so I guess I’m normal

singleedition Wed 21-Aug-19 17:21:55

Haha that made me chuckle @TinselAndKnickers

I know my exes schedule pretty well so I’ve been like a ninja going around trying to avoid him 😂😂

My ex has a staff profile on his company page and i did go through a phase of just sitting staring at it at one point herb so I get the weirdness 😅

It’s weird what heartbreak has you doing ha!

TinselAndKnickers Wed 21-Aug-19 17:09:26

(A joke obvs! It can be said for all of us!)

TinselAndKnickers Wed 21-Aug-19 17:08:51

Herb, in the kindest possible way... grin I'll let Pam from Gavin & Stacey tell you

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 17:03:37

Yeah that would really annoy me!

Want to hear my tragic thing? Looking at pictures on the “people” section of company websites is something I enjoy (I mean I don’t do it for a hobby but I have to go on company websites a lot for work so I always go on the people section) but started specifically looking for people who are same race because I miss him but looking at him hurts and there’s almost no one of his race here. How weird (and possibly offensive) is that!

Jonsnowsghost Wed 21-Aug-19 17:01:45

Yeah pretty sure he was tip toeing! I went to the balcony door but he didn't drive past for ages so thought he was still near the front so went to the front then went back to the balcony just to see his car disappearing round the corner! I mean I wouldn't have done anything, maybe waved a little 😅 but just annoyed I missed a little glimpse

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 16:47:44

But how frustrating

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 16:47:19

Every chance he did a little tip toe tip toe for that reason...would it have made you feel better? Or just set you back?

I’m dreading seeing A but he works the other end of town as me and we don’t really go any of the same places so could easily not run into him for weeks or months

Jonsnowsghost Wed 21-Aug-19 16:26:09

Omg guys he's just been round and posted the festival tickets through my door and I missed him, I WAS IN!!!! I didn't realise what it was and by the time I opened the door he was gone, I'm so gutted sad

TinselAndKnickers Wed 21-Aug-19 16:08:37

I really want to make things right sad

herbsmokedchicken Wed 21-Aug-19 16:03:45

Let the tears flow! No point holding them in.

I’m just so sad and I feel so helpless. Just doesn’t seem right then we were so happy and then his feelings could just fade away...except during logical moments I can see how, as I said ages ago on here it actually makes sense that after his initial infatuation died, there was no real love to replace it. But most of the time I am not logical...

AdviceforMeplease Wed 21-Aug-19 15:27:46

Thanks singleedition Deleting his number and blocking him after saying goodnight to him for the last time was literally the most heartbreaking thing ever. There was no anger which doesn’t help, he just doesn’t feel for me what I feel for him and he was honest about it.

Wish things were different. Crying again now. Ughhh

TinselAndKnickers Wed 21-Aug-19 15:14:11

I'm a right stalker and can own up to it grin tonight I'm going to be really petty. I'll be near his house at the pub so I'm gonna put my tinder radius right down so he pops up, like him, then he'll see I'm on it. Then I'll delete my account cos it's full of weirdos grin I know it's petty but I want him to know it hurts when you see them on there and it may give him the idea that I'm not sat waiting around after all.

Just had a boiling hot shower and a sing along by myself grin

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