He did it again

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

NC.

Sitting here with a swollen black eye. Don't know whether to report as I don't want social services to be involved.

[Mrskeats]

Again? Enough then.

[foxychox]

I didnt want to read and run, handhold for whatever you want to do....

[clpsmum]

Social services will help you if they get involved. Phone the police. Rather have agencies involved helping keep you safe than be a punchbag for the rest of your life. You are worth much much more than that. Sending hugs 🤗

[PicsInRed]

Report it.
Better for child arrangements proceedings.
In that respect it's harder if you don't report at the time and you would bitterly, bitterly regret not reporting. Ask me how I know. 🤨

[NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace]

Please, please do; get the support you need.

The likelihood is that he'll do it again. And again

Sending you love and strength

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

I don't want him to see my child ever again.

After 4 years, I thought'd he change. Never again

[Igmum]

Please report it. It took me years to report, by which time he was trying to kill me. So much better when he isn't there. Unmumsnetty hugs to you OP 💐💐💐

[Rosielily]

Phone the police.

[WifOfBif]

I know everything seems so scary right now. Even telling us here must have been hard.

Please call the police. That’s the first step. They will help you, as will social services.

This isn’t your fault. You don’t deserve this.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

They were involved before. They are going to think that this mother isn't serious.

[Frith2013]

I’ve been in a similar situation (refuge etc)

No one wants to make things worse for you and people (professionals) will help you.

[WifOfBif]

I work in this field, all professionals know how difficult it can be to escape domestic abuse.

What happened last time when they were involved? Do you feel like you can call the police?

Please protect yourself and your children. He won’t change.

[whatthewhatthewhat]

It's never easy or straight forward. Don't let anyone make you feel like you have to leave RIGHT NOW. It might be safer to 'pretend' all is ok and bide your time.


They never change though.

Good luck.

[BlueJag]

Report only if you are going to leave him. Otherwise nothing will change and he'll do it again.
Poor you most be so upsetting.

[SuzieQ10]

Report it. Tonight. Then, tomorrow go to your emergency housing / temporary accommodation centre (every council has one) as Homeless Today due to domestic violence and they will house you the same day. Probably in another borough if the police deem it unsafe to stay local to your abuser. The council have a duty of care to house you under the circumstances. So you do have the option to get out of there.

[ohfourfoxache]

Police, now - please

[whatthewhatthewhat]

It's not always as easy to 'report it'

Give her break!

[pigu]

You need to go to the police right now, for yours and your DC sake! It won't get better

[MMmomDD]

Call the police. Next time will be worse. He will escalate. You are in danger, can’t you see it.
Do you want your child(ren) to grow up with foster families and a father in prison?
And if this isn’t enough to scare you. Do you want your kids to learn that it’s OK to do that to another person? If you have a daughter - do you want her to let her future H do that to her bc it’s normal as daddy did it?

Pick up that phone. Defend yourself - if not for yourself, then for your kid(s)

[Quartz2208]

Are you serious though because if you are you need as much help and support as you can get

Report him and take it

[CatInADoghouse]

He'll do it to you again. Please report it and get out before your child gets hurt too. Social services won't make anything difficult for you surely! You are the victim! Big hugs

[Sparkybloke]

Again!!! Call the police...now.

[Ilikesleepinginthedark]

They are going to take my child away. I would also lose my job as I'm a nurse- due to my child being on a child protection plan.

[CatInADoghouse]

OP please phone woman's aid. You've done nothing wrong!

[CatInADoghouse]

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/