I don't know what to do so posting here.
It is impossible to discuss anything with DH without him taking it like a personal attack. He twists my words / paraphrasing what I say then gets even more mad / upset when I don't comfort him when he is crying / upset cos he has escalated it or gone into victim mode, as in he will say " it's all me , you always blame me , why am I always wrong " etc even over relatively small things. It's impossible. I don't always blame him, but I am in a can't do right for doing wrong situation.
He gets to tears and self pity really easily, even when the issue is not to do directly with him or is s minor thing. Then because I am arguing or disagree with what he says I said, I am the bad guy and always having a go etc.
Tonight he said I have to change or it's over and house will be sold. So change means , I think effectively me never disagreeing and me responding to his emotional needs.
Because he is so draining I have got to point where I don't rely on him emotionally. He says I do nothing for him but I spent time before we were married and through the birth and early years of our son dedicating myself to him , my son and family home. Now I work, he does not do the extra things I did and I don't feel inclined to make effort towards him. Basically on a relationship level it has all come from me previously.
He never suggests a night out, makes anything special for me, anything that married couples might do.
He has unresolved MH issues, we have a 6 yest old DS.
What do i do. How do I change, aside from giving less of sh1t about my own needs and pandering more to his.
I think he is serious.
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DH unless I change that's it
earlgreymarl · 21/07/2019 00:03
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