This is my fourth thread ! (Long-time mn-er.)
I initially started a thread reluctantly in December after my H ruined my birthday weekend (and 1st anniversay of my dad's death) by giving me the silent treatment all weekend to "punish me" for not being grateful enough for him coming away and buying me a present and a card.
//www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3448545-Confronting-DH-about-his-sulking?msgid=84022238
Thanks to some amazing posters I realised that H's behaviour (which was not at all a one-off) was abusive and unacceptable.
I prepared to leave him and got plans in place but got "hoovered" back in by H with promises of joint counselling, individual counselling for him, and regular "date nights". Unfortunately none of that changed the dynamic in our relationship : 2nd thread :
//www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3498886-Confronting-DH-about-his-sulking-part2?msgid=85957683
I started a 3rd thread in May when H and I had decided to separate :
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3580872-LEAVING-sulking-H?msgid=88239005
and that's when things got nightmarish.
As everyone on here pointed out, the most dangerous time for women is when they decide to leave an abusive partner.
In a nutshell, H went missing, had an acute psychotic episode, was admitted to a psychiatric facility and is still in there now.
Staff at the hospital warned me H could be dangerous for me and advised me to move out asap which I did, in fear for my life.
Things now are on a reasonably even keel 2 months on but now the battle is managing H who is continuing his abusive behaviour and also protecting the DC (12 & 14) - H is expecting to get joint custody.
Thanks again to all the wonderful posters who have advised me, informed me, cheered me on, shared their experiences and generally been an invaluable source of support over the last 7-8 months.
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DIVORCING sulking H!
jamaisjedors · 13/07/2019 20:16
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