About 4 weeks ago, my husband told he no longer loves, fed up with the lack of sex and does even give me a 2nd thought most of time. This is the 2nd time he has told me this, the last time was last Summer when we ended up in marriage counselling. We moved house not long after counselling and things have gone down hill since then. Husband admits he is depressed and bored with life and confused as to what he wants. But he does nothing to help himself just drifts from one day to the next. Wont go to the GP as he says anti depressants do not work. But depression aside, he has never been very loving towards to me, he says he cares about me but that's because I am the mother of his kids who are teenagers. He openly admits he does not give me a 2nd thought when he is at work or out with his mates or visiting his best friend who lives 3 hours away. He admits he has taken me for granted and has shown me little support in life through out years which has taken its toll on me as a person. He has made a huge deal about the lack of sex in our marriage but I find it difficult to be intimate with someone who ignores me most of the time. He said he kinda understands that but I am not sure he really gets it. We have had sex twice since he told he did not love me which I now see as a stupid thing to do, because he got want he wanted but still continues to ignore me and has given me no indication as to whether he wants to try and save our marriage or that he has some feeling for me. I feel I am living in limbo, just waiting for him to make his made whether he wants a relationship with me or not. Hence my heading how long do I wait? If we split up we cant sell the house for another 18 months due to being tied in with our mortgage so would have to come up with some kind of arrangement living together which will be very hard but at least I will know its definatlely over can start planning for my own future. But how long would you be prepared wait to know? I have no other family or no close friends so I am completely on my own with this. Thanks reading this far.
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How long do wait for husband to decide if he wants you or not
Mango234 · 11/07/2019 16:31
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