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Is he a good husband and family man

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mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 17:59:59

If he ONLY has sex with the other woman when he's away with work? No other commitment flowers gifts etc but pure no feelings involved sex when he's away?

Views please

thethoughtfox Wed 10-Jul-19 18:01:59

No he is not.

KOKOtiltomorrow Wed 10-Jul-19 18:02:23

No no and no

KeepFuckingOff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:02:51


mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:03:18

Is there any way in the world a person like this could be described as a 'great husband' and 'good guy'
Would you stay?

luanmapo Wed 10-Jul-19 18:04:43


He is a douche bag !

KOKOtiltomorrow Wed 10-Jul-19 18:05:18

Only by himself!! I wouldn’t stay but don’t know your circumstances - how dependant on him are you??

ShakeYourTailFeathers Wed 10-Jul-19 18:06:19


mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:06:58


I have no income only mutual friends etc. I have seen the messages. Every last one. He has been acting shifty for the last couple of weeks. Sneaking off every few minutes always with his phone with him. Until he fell asleep and I had a good snoop

Rosielily Wed 10-Jul-19 18:07:12

And why are you asking this??

Benes Wed 10-Jul-19 18:07:55

He is not a good guy
He is not a good husband
I would not stay

If you are married to this man find some self respect and leave

Quartz2208 Wed 10-Jul-19 18:07:59

You are married? Get legal advice but no he isnt

Bananalanacake Wed 10-Jul-19 18:08:17

Yeah, it's ok but only if he doesn't share a bed with her afterwards and doesn't kiss or hug afterwards. (placemarking sarcily cos I am rivetted)
Op may be asking on behalf of someone else.

mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:08:48

The messages make it quite clear this is just an arrangement and won't ever be any more. So I'm wondering if I should just get on with it rather than rock the boat?
See he's very attractive and has a good job and I don't work haven't for years and am admittedly very dowdy these days

TroubleWithNargles Wed 10-Jul-19 18:08:54

He's a lying cheating bastard. End of.

LorelaiRoryEmily Wed 10-Jul-19 18:09:46

No. What a stupid question

Benes Wed 10-Jul-19 18:11:22

You deserve better. Much better

LorelaiRoryEmily Wed 10-Jul-19 18:11:43

Sorry op I just read the rest of your posts. It is still a silly question. Of course he’s not a good husband or family man. I’m sorry for you.

mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:13:12

Thing is everything revolves around him. I have nobody and no friends or family. Also side chick is absolutely stunning

Bananalanacake Wed 10-Jul-19 18:13:45

Sorry, I missed the update, assumed you were asking for someone else as it was in the third person. Do you suspect it is recent.

mrbigstuff Wed 10-Jul-19 18:14:34

Oh yes it's recent

She's prob turned his head and promised him the Earth I know what her type are like

sillysmiles Wed 10-Jul-19 18:14:46

See he's very attractive and has a good job and I don't work haven't for years and am admittedly very dowdy these days

That's a separate issue. If you feel you aren't happy in your own body and own skin, then look at what you need to do to make yourself happier. But that is separate to your husband cheating. He is cheating. The question you need to ask is are you willing to ignore it.

Separate again, you need to discuss with someone what would happen to you financially if you left your husband.

thepinkp Wed 10-Jul-19 18:15:19

Trust me this will eat you alive, I speak from experience! Please walk away and fleece the barsteward

Proteinshakesandovieshat Wed 10-Jul-19 18:17:43

Do you have kids?

rededucator Wed 10-Jul-19 18:18:08

'You know what her type are like' sorry OP but the OW is irrelevant, it's your husband you should be focusing your blame on!

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