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Fluctuating between being really pissed off and feeling really rejected and unwanted...sodding friend!

(12 Posts)
Tigana Thu 26-Jul-07 16:50:59

Old friend, who has been travelling since March, was due to come to see me this evening, we were off to a local music festival for the weekend.
Texts yesterday about weather and what sort of time to expect her. Another one this morning. Then at 14.42 a text saying:

"sorry 'tigana', have decided not to come. Driving conditions are horrendous. I am broke and don't get paid for 4 weeks. Plus have had visitors for 4 days and back at work on mon. Need to sort myself out. Sorry it's so late notice. X"

She's done this before.

Pisses me off when she is so flakey.


smallwhitecat Thu 26-Jul-07 16:55:01

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walbert Thu 26-Jul-07 16:56:54

Send a text back saying 'it's ok, i didn't want to anyway'. Then when you send the text put your thumb to your nose and go 'nyar nyar!'

Tigana Thu 26-Jul-07 17:03:25

She IS (I mean WAS ) coming from gloucestershire...BUT DH and I drove up that way last weekend and it was fine.
I mean...she has no water...we do..she could have had a shower and all sorts!

Tigana Thu 26-Jul-07 17:14:15

Bankhanded compliment or being taken advantage of. Not so convinced she would tolerate me doing this to her...

Tigana Wed 01-Aug-07 13:47:35

She hasn't been in touch since the text to say she wasn't coming.
I replied asking if there was anything Icould do to change her mind, that I would buy her a beer or 3...but no response.
No text, no email ( our usual method of staying in touch) nothing...
Am wondering if my friendship list has just reduced from "2" to "1" . She does however have a boyfriend now and a habit of dropping friends somewhat when attached...)

WinkyWinkola Wed 01-Aug-07 18:38:00

Ooooh, sack her as a friend instantly, especially since she's done this before and couldn't even be bothered to do you the courtesy of actually calling you to explain the situation. She sends a crappy text! She really rates you highly, doesn't she? I'd ignore any future texts / calls from her.

Alternatively, make another arrangement with her to come to your home and go out twenty minutes before her arrival. Then text her and say you can't make it and be annoyingly vague like "something's come up." She'll probably fall out with you but it's not like you've got a lot to lose.

Unless you've got lots of spare time, I just wouldn't waste any time of my life on flakers like this because they don't change and they have utter disregard for your feelings and time.

Spandex Wed 01-Aug-07 19:42:52

She's not a friend. Friends don't let each other down like that.

meandmyflyingmachine Wed 01-Aug-07 19:46:31

What is it with texting? Cancelling plans at the last minute requires actual talking at the very least IMO. Person to person grovelling. That I might be more understanding about. A text? Bugger off.

Lotstodo Sun 05-Aug-07 08:40:17

Also, in the text you received there are about three or four different reasons why she couldn't make it which I'd find upsetting if I was the recipient. Have you heard from her yet by the way?

GibbonInARibbon Sun 05-Aug-07 08:44:50

To not even reply when you asked if there way anything you could do to change her mind...and to cancel by text, at that short notice.
Hmmmm, sadly, doesn't sound like much of a friend to me.

HectorsHouse Sun 05-Aug-07 08:45:57

text back .."OK that's fine. However it would have been far less insulting if you'd picked up the phone and told me to my face rather than hiding behind a text message."

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