I have had such an awful morning I have been struggling to hold it together today at work. I am a name changer - I hate doing it but so many people know my business I just want this to be private.
DH earns well - most of it go to his DC from previous marriage. They are teens and have been, quite rightly, kept in the style to which they were accustomed, which includes some of the best schools in the UK.
For our 7 year marriage I have worked like a Donkey and saved and budgeted to fund my own lifestyle which I have done v successfully. SCs Mother has not contributed at all over the years and still has no job which angers me greatly as she is capable of doing something now tbh, which means DHs payments have not diminished at all. However there is F all I can do about that so I just accept it as gracefully as I can.
I pay a large chunk of our large Mortgage and also have 10 month DS. I am back to work P/T and a relative v kindly looks after him free of charge. I fund everything to do with DS and also cover household bills. The other day DH made a comment that I contribute a "minimal" amount, he was half serious and it was a very off the cuff remark. He also makes comments about me not buying food. I just broke down when he said it. It was so insulting to me to hear him disregard everything I have done over the years.
I then said that if my contribution is so negligable, I would actually like to stop contributing to the mortgage after 7 years, as I really want to save for the future and do a course to further my career and he has accused me of not being "a team" with him and is extremely disgusted at me. I am just in shock. I wrote him an email (I hate to argue as DS picks up on it immediately) saying that I am devestated at the way he is treating me, but he is adamant that I am being unreasonable and he says I can't stop my contribution. From what I have said in this post - I know it is really hard to judge a whole relationship by this - please tell me your thoughts, I feel shell-shocked that money could possibly be the end of my marriage.
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really need help - money issues wrecking marriage
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