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**************Can't get a word in*****************

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 18:47

I was going to namechange for this but ah what the hell!
Ok so here it goes, I met a lovely French man six weeks ago. He is courteous, considerate, kind, sexy, funny etc. You may be asking what the problem is, well.............he never shuts up! Sorry that's a bit blunt but it is basically true.

I'm myself blessed in the gift of the gab dept but feel if I don't "pardon the pun" say something that this relationship won't go anywhere, unless
I zone out and keep nodding and umming in the right places, which I'm already starting to do. Can anyone advise me on how I can sensitively approach this with him?

TIA

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:23

Anyone?

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:27

Do the thing with the finger across the neck you know like you will slit his throat if he doesn't shut up.

Tis a universible sign, he will get the idea

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:32

Hey T where ya been girl?
Oh God seriously though, he is a lovely man but when it gets to the stage when you think someone is talking at you or would just continue whether you were there or not. I really do just nod and um because even when I do manage to get in it feels like I've had to pounce into the conversation and that can't be right can it?

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:37

Tis a pity.

He sounds like my mother, with regard the non-stop gabbing.

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:40

I have to say something diplomatic soon otherwise I think I'll probably just get a cut out of me and leave him to talk to it.

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:43

Try explaining that conversations only work if people take turns

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:45

It's like i'll say something that will spark his interest and wahey!!!! Off he goes...................and goes...............and goes..........and goes
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:46

start to look bored, he'll get the hint

the best way is to start pickingimaginary fluff off your clothes...really gets the point accross

lol at 'Do the thing with the finger across the neck you know like you will slit his throat if he doesn't shut up.'

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:48

I think it is probably doomed.

You were in lust - the honeymoon period is over cut your losses and find yourself a fella who dotes on you and not himself.

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:49

I've actually nearly fallen asleep, so the looking bored has probably been covered at this stage. Maybe it is a lost cause, I mean if this is the way he is, is it possible for him to change at 44?

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:49

< I feel assertive this evening >

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:50

blimey, if he can still blabber on when you are almost asleep he must be a hardcore 'all about me'

hmmmmmm doesn't sound like he'll change now

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RubySlippers · 24/07/2007 19:50

it might be nerves
some people talk a lot when they are nervous

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:51

I noticed TnOgu

[impressed]

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:51

Ah feck, how do you tell someone to ease up with the word flow without offending?

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:51

surely not nerves after six weeks?

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RubySlippers · 24/07/2007 19:51

just kiss him if he won't shut up

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:52

you could make a joke like...

Fuck me you go on a bit don't you

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RubySlippers · 24/07/2007 19:52

well, you are still in the lurve haze at 6 weeks
you want it to go well and all that

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TnOgu · 24/07/2007 19:53

Pretend to fall asleep

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GibbonInARibbon · 24/07/2007 19:53

true....

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Desiderata · 24/07/2007 19:53

I agree with TnOgu. People can't change their characters. If that's the way he is, and it's pissing you off, then you have to make some tough decisions regarding your future together.

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:53

I don't think I've helped by doing the hanging onto his evey word routine either though. The closest we have come to the truth is my saying, "well we will never be lost for words"

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RubySlippers · 24/07/2007 19:54

but at 6 weeks you do think what the other person is saying is utterly fascinating even if it isn't!
6 weeks is too early to can it because he talks too much IMVHO

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MhamaiJane · 24/07/2007 19:55

Only to say "Oui cest bonne" Desi and I love that bit!

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