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Am I a slapper?

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Lottielettuce Fri 07-Jun-19 15:41:05

Hi everyone, I’m new here so please be gentle.
Last year after 5 years of widowhood I joined Match. I realise that at 71 I’m far older than most of you, anyway I met this 47 year old guy who prefers older women, there were sparks and fireworks and it was lust at first sight. We met several times but it eventually fizzled out because we were both meeting other people but we always kept messaging each other. Recently I met someone my age who is lovely attentive and every I could want so last night I suspended my old account. However, since doing that the younger guy has been WhatsApping me like crazy and wants to come and see me tonight. Question is, am I being a complete old slapper to want just another night of fantastic sex before the rocking chair beckons, or should I do the honourable thing and tell him to go away?

madcatladyforever Fri 07-Jun-19 15:42:51


Thingsdogetbetter Fri 07-Jun-19 15:45:49

Slapper no. Have you had the exclusive talk with new bloke? Will you feel like shite about new bloke? Do you think old bloke is only ramping up the attention because you've stopped being so available?

CookieDeal Fri 07-Jun-19 15:46:44

Have you made any commitment to the guy your age? If not, then go for it with the younger guy!!

And don't call yourself a slapper! It's perfectly fine to be a woman who enjoys sex.

hellsbellsmelons Fri 07-Jun-19 15:48:01

You do what ever you want.
And no, you are not a slapper to want some good sex.
Go with your gut!

humblebumblebees Fri 07-Jun-19 15:48:06

You're not a slapper. Nobody is a slapper.

No one on here can tell you whether or not to have a last fling. Really, that's up to you.

However, if you really hope to develop a close and trusting relationship with the older man then it would be unhelpful on many levels to respond to the younger man's latest approach.

I would block him if it were me, and put that particular adventure behind me.

Newadventure Fri 07-Jun-19 15:49:50

Bang away.

TeachesOfPeaches Fri 07-Jun-19 15:50:51

Haven't heard the term slapper for years! Thanks nana

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 15:54:18

Suggest a three-way?hmm

sugarbum Fri 07-Jun-19 15:55:53

Its 2019.
Slappers don't exist.

Honeybooboo123 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:01:02

Do it, and then move on

Ivy44 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:04:00


I keep seeing that emoji. What does it mean?

Is it a jammy dodger?

Veterinari Fri 07-Jun-19 16:06:30


supercali77 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:08:50

Slapper? No way - women have sexual needs as much as men - all those words....reclaim em

Lovemusic33 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:09:47

Do it 😁

Notabedofroses Fri 07-Jun-19 16:12:32


GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies Fri 07-Jun-19 16:12:37

Why not invite them both and have a threesome? Thrupple is the way to go!

fecketyfeck21 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:10

op 'jammy dodger' means no comment. lead your live as you wish, you don't need to ask us, but think about using condoms. vd can affect any age.

Al2O3 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:28

Do it, but for god sake make him wear a condom. You don't want to be sprogging at your age.

Cruelstepmother Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:59

I met someone my age who is lovely attentive and everything I could want … but he isn't, is he?

You want some great sex - and why not? You're 71, not dead.

But you also want a loving relationship.

Ask yourself if you really want to pick only one of the two, or keep looking.

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 16:15:53

Thrupple is the way to go!

With the added advantage that the young man would be a live-in-carer for the older pair should the need arise. Win-win!

Ivy44 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:16:47

I’m just really looking forward to great sex with a younger man, when I’m in my 70s.

I thought the menopause meant my sex life would be over at 50.

I’m 41, hadn’t been looking forward to it!

Illberidingshotgun Fri 07-Jun-19 16:17:00

Nothing wrong with having sex, but I hope you are using condoms at all times.

Purplecatshopaholic Fri 07-Jun-19 16:18:36

Go for it - I am just jealous!

humblebumblebees Fri 07-Jun-19 16:19:40

@Ivy44 it is very encouraging, I agree. grin

Marylou2 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:20:15

So want this to be for realgringrin. Just go for it OP!

ClosdesMouches Fri 07-Jun-19 16:21:31


qazxc Fri 07-Jun-19 16:22:58

You don't sound that interested in the new bloke TBH. He may be all you want on paper but if the connection isn't there and you find him boring (the rocking chair comment), you should probably let him go and keep looking.
Wanting to still have sex with younger bloke is another sign of this.

deydododatdodontdeydo Fri 07-Jun-19 16:24:47

You are a playa, I think.

Thatsalovelycuppatea Fri 07-Jun-19 16:24:51

Sorry but I think it's ridiculous. Definitely a wind up.

S1naidSucks Fri 07-Jun-19 16:25:24

I can’t see why so many posters are so disbelieving that the OP is real, and I’m one if the most cynical fuckers on here. If you are indeed real, then go for it, so long as the other man doesn’t think it’s an exclusive relationship. Don’t forget the lub. 😉

fecketyfeck21 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:25:48

Al she's not likely to get pregnant at 71 grin

TemporaryPermanent Fri 07-Jun-19 16:27:31

Why not just keep going with the sex account? Do you have to have an exclusive partnership? Does your new chap even want that? Do you?

I've got several connections on the go since being widowed at 49. In my 50s I'm learning more about my own sexuality than I had any idea was possible. Why are you so keen to wave goodbye to great sex? Surely it would be good to have both hot sex and companionship? if that's not available as a single package, why not go for multiples?

Crinkle77 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:27:41

Go for it!

zippey Fri 07-Jun-19 16:29:34

Can you keep them both going? Ask them to agree to an open relationship and you can have your cake and eat it too

Coronapop Fri 07-Jun-19 16:30:23

I do not believe one word of this.

SoupDragon Fri 07-Jun-19 16:30:32

she's not likely to get pregnant at 71

No, but age is no barrier to an STI!

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 16:33:41

I can’t see why so many posters are so disbelieving that the OP is real

The disingenuous, faux-naive tone?
The use of the word 'slapper'. <shudder>

It sounds like a gerontophile's fantasy tbh, mining for backslaps and personal anecdotes and fantasy fodder.

HollowTalk Fri 07-Jun-19 16:40:51

I reckon the OP is a guy who gets off on older women. So to speak.

Nancydrawn Fri 07-Jun-19 16:42:17

Practice safe sex.

Gonorrhea is spreading madly in retirement villages as people think they're too old for kids so they don't need condoms. To add: increasingly antibiotic-resistant gonorrhea.


MollyHuaCha Fri 07-Jun-19 16:43:40

It's OP's first post.

What a surprise...

JudgeRindersMinder Fri 07-Jun-19 16:44:21

Absolutely go for it😁

For those of you doubting the OP, why?

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 16:45:33

Also: The 'I'm new here' defense. A 71 year old starts perusing MN recently (absolutely nowt wrong with that) and her first or near fist post is about 'one last shag with a toyboy or is she a slapper'? confused

user1486131602 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:48:56

Hell no! Go for it. You’re al long time dead!!

Windmillwhirl Fri 07-Jun-19 16:49:53

My mum is 71. She writes nothing like you.

humblebumblebees Fri 07-Jun-19 16:58:39

@Windmillwhirl has a very good point. OP's writing style does suggest a younger person.

3timeslucky Fri 07-Jun-19 17:00:42

Whatsapping like crazy as the language of a 71 year old is more improbable than the idea of someone of that age enjoying sex.

crazyasafox Fri 07-Jun-19 17:04:08

I am torn between posting this >>> 😂

Or this >>> 🤢

Or THIS >>> 😲


My mum is 71. She writes nothing like you.

Yeah this. ^

The OP is definitely a couple of generations below that. Late 20s tops...

OR she IS 71, and is the most immature and intellectually-challenged 71 y.o I have ever encountered.


She's not likely to get pregnant at 71.

Oh I dunno, some women on here claim to be mothers at outlandish ages, often with natural conceptions. wink

BlueMerchant Fri 07-Jun-19 17:06:33

Old guy needs to get out of his rocker and run for the hills....

Nomorepies Fri 07-Jun-19 17:17:22

I call fake. What you after ‘OP’ some juicy granny sex stories? envy NOT envy

Redcrayons Fri 07-Jun-19 17:18:44

My mum is 71. She writes nothing like you

And mine. This is not a scenario she's ever likely to encounter either.

If genuine, you're a long time dead, love. Go for it.
If not, get back to Reddit, troll.

Mrsmadevans Fri 07-Jun-19 17:19:57

Whatever you are on OP l would love to have some and no you are not a slapper !

PortiaCastis Fri 07-Jun-19 17:21:37

My Mum doesn't write like that either

mimibunz Fri 07-Jun-19 17:24:10

Oh please. If you are a real person you would have sorted it out by 71. Don’t ask strangers on the internet.

redspider1 Fri 07-Jun-19 17:27:35

So long as there is no commitment to anyone else, go ahead and enjoy yourself.

redspider1 Fri 07-Jun-19 17:31:16

My Mum doesn't write like that either

Why would she write like your mum? Oh yeah, every person of the same generation writes in the same way don't they, silly me! hmm

magoria Fri 07-Jun-19 17:34:05

Let the new older man go so he can find someone who appreciates sharing a rocking chair with him.

Have the fun you want as a single person.

over50andfab Fri 07-Jun-19 17:35:16

Ummmm a guy 26 yrs younger than me messaged me on match happens! I’ve also had a short relationship with a younger man.

STIs are on the increase in older divorced/widowed people - who think condoms are no longer needed for preventing pregnancy. OP, If you’re not exclusive with the other guy, I say go for it, Play safe, and get fully tested after the relationship is finished.

Have fun!

Aprillygirl Fri 07-Jun-19 17:46:53

Enjoying sex does not make you a slapper. As long as you're honest with,and don't mind possibly losing the new guy, go for it.

NameChangeNugget Fri 07-Jun-19 17:47:55

Why don’t you invite them both over for a spit roast?

SmiledWithTheRisingSun Fri 07-Jun-19 17:50:10

The OP does not have the voice of a 71 year old. biscuit

S1naidSucks Fri 07-Jun-19 18:06:57

It sounds like a gerontophile's fantasy tbh adds new word to list of perverted people. 🤢

S1naidSucks Fri 07-Jun-19 18:08:17

The OP does not have the voice of a 71 year old.

No, but they might have the cock of a 47yr old. grin

crazyasafox Fri 07-Jun-19 19:40:27


Why would she write like your mum? Oh yeah, every person of the same generation writes in the same way don't they, silly me! hmm

Maybe not EXACTLY the same way, but most people of the same generation write in a similar manner, and also have very similar handwriting. DD swore that her friend's nan was sending birthday cards to herself, when 5 individual cards from Beryl, Molly, Joyce, June, and Edna were sitting on the mantelpiece with almost identical handwriting in each one.

It wasn't til she and her friend were leaving the Nan's house that the 5 ladies turned up to go the the local social club with her, that DD realised they all existed, and had all sent her a card.

Point of fact is though, that a 71 y.o would not be writing like a 16-17 y.o. boy. No WAY is the OP a 71 y.o. woman!

RuffleCrow Fri 07-Jun-19 19:48:06

Slapper?! Who even uses that word any more?

You lived through the 1960s. You were young at the dawn of second wave feminism. Why are you using misogynistic language to refer to yourself?

Wheresthebeach Fri 07-Jun-19 20:06:50

I knew this would be a fun thread by the title! grin

fecketyfeck21 Fri 07-Jun-19 20:42:32

so what happens next op ? or are you busy with your home work ?

crazyasafox Fri 07-Jun-19 21:23:52

@fecketyfeck21 the OP is probably cramming for their GCSEs. grin

IndieTara Fri 07-Jun-19 21:39:03

@Ivy44 I'm in the menopause currently, am 53 and have a great sex life.
Why do so many people think being menopausal means no sex ?

Ivy44 Sat 08-Jun-19 08:48:02

Glad to hear it. I thought the sex hormones decreased and switched off your libido?

DarklyDreamingDexter Sat 08-Jun-19 09:09:18

No idea if this is a troll, but I do have a friend who is 70 and is genuinely shagging a man in his late forties, so it is possible! I'm not suggesting she is the OP as she'd never write this or see herself as a "slapper". My friend has been on HRT for years and attributes that to her still being "frisky" as she put it, at her age. You'd never guess she was 70, late 50s at most. Not all 70 somethings look or act like little old ladies!

fecketyfeck21 Sat 08-Jun-19 09:24:31

you are as young as the man you feel grin

IndieTara Sat 08-Jun-19 14:51:37

@Ivy44 can't imagine I'm the only one so I hope that the general consensus is wrong :-)

I have a lot of other menopausal symptoms but lack of libido isn't one of them.

75Renarde Sat 08-Jun-19 20:09:32

People DO seem to be obsessed with the word slapper, don't they?

Point is and I see no reason that the post insnt geuine, she has in her own mind formed a homd with older guy by virtue of coming off OLD. I get that. I also get she wants to have sex with hottie.

Ahh man, you're 71. Go for it grin

HOWEVER! There are red flags flying over hottie. OLD is rammed with narcs. His desperation on the WA is speaking volumes. As is his prowess in bed otherwise you wouldn't be tempted. Why Didcot fizzle out btw?

So yeah. My advice, enjoy. Don't get emotionally invested. I guarantee it will end badly if you do.

EdWinchester Sat 08-Jun-19 20:11:14

Yeah right hmm

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