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Am I a slapper?

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Lottielettuce Fri 07-Jun-19 15:41:05

Hi everyone, I’m new here so please be gentle.
Last year after 5 years of widowhood I joined Match. I realise that at 71 I’m far older than most of you, anyway I met this 47 year old guy who prefers older women, there were sparks and fireworks and it was lust at first sight. We met several times but it eventually fizzled out because we were both meeting other people but we always kept messaging each other. Recently I met someone my age who is lovely attentive and every I could want so last night I suspended my old account. However, since doing that the younger guy has been WhatsApping me like crazy and wants to come and see me tonight. Question is, am I being a complete old slapper to want just another night of fantastic sex before the rocking chair beckons, or should I do the honourable thing and tell him to go away?

madcatladyforever Fri 07-Jun-19 15:42:51


Thingsdogetbetter Fri 07-Jun-19 15:45:49

Slapper no. Have you had the exclusive talk with new bloke? Will you feel like shite about new bloke? Do you think old bloke is only ramping up the attention because you've stopped being so available?

CookieDeal Fri 07-Jun-19 15:46:44

Have you made any commitment to the guy your age? If not, then go for it with the younger guy!!

And don't call yourself a slapper! It's perfectly fine to be a woman who enjoys sex.

hellsbellsmelons Fri 07-Jun-19 15:48:01

You do what ever you want.
And no, you are not a slapper to want some good sex.
Go with your gut!

humblebumblebees Fri 07-Jun-19 15:48:06

You're not a slapper. Nobody is a slapper.

No one on here can tell you whether or not to have a last fling. Really, that's up to you.

However, if you really hope to develop a close and trusting relationship with the older man then it would be unhelpful on many levels to respond to the younger man's latest approach.

I would block him if it were me, and put that particular adventure behind me.

Newadventure Fri 07-Jun-19 15:49:50

Bang away.

TeachesOfPeaches Fri 07-Jun-19 15:50:51

Haven't heard the term slapper for years! Thanks nana

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 15:54:18

Suggest a three-way?hmm

sugarbum Fri 07-Jun-19 15:55:53

Its 2019.
Slappers don't exist.

Honeybooboo123 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:01:02

Do it, and then move on

Ivy44 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:04:00


I keep seeing that emoji. What does it mean?

Is it a jammy dodger?

Veterinari Fri 07-Jun-19 16:06:30


supercali77 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:08:50

Slapper? No way - women have sexual needs as much as men - all those words....reclaim em

Lovemusic33 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:09:47

Do it 😁

Notabedofroses Fri 07-Jun-19 16:12:32


GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies Fri 07-Jun-19 16:12:37

Why not invite them both and have a threesome? Thrupple is the way to go!

fecketyfeck21 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:10

op 'jammy dodger' means no comment. lead your live as you wish, you don't need to ask us, but think about using condoms. vd can affect any age.

Al2O3 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:28

Do it, but for god sake make him wear a condom. You don't want to be sprogging at your age.

Cruelstepmother Fri 07-Jun-19 16:14:59

I met someone my age who is lovely attentive and everything I could want … but he isn't, is he?

You want some great sex - and why not? You're 71, not dead.

But you also want a loving relationship.

Ask yourself if you really want to pick only one of the two, or keep looking.

NottonightJosepheen Fri 07-Jun-19 16:15:53

Thrupple is the way to go!

With the added advantage that the young man would be a live-in-carer for the older pair should the need arise. Win-win!

Ivy44 Fri 07-Jun-19 16:16:47

I’m just really looking forward to great sex with a younger man, when I’m in my 70s.

I thought the menopause meant my sex life would be over at 50.

I’m 41, hadn’t been looking forward to it!

Illberidingshotgun Fri 07-Jun-19 16:17:00

Nothing wrong with having sex, but I hope you are using condoms at all times.

Purplecatshopaholic Fri 07-Jun-19 16:18:36

Go for it - I am just jealous!

humblebumblebees Fri 07-Jun-19 16:19:40

@Ivy44 it is very encouraging, I agree. grin

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