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Was he unfaithful? i honestly don't know!!!!!!!!!!!

(13 Posts)
jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 14:59:34

have been with my dp for 2+ years now. We met on the net and i fell pregnant very quickly, during my pregnancy i found alot of things to prove he was talking to other women (one in particular as yes i phoned her). also his ex and a few more on sex sites.
tbh he always dropped whatever he was doing for me as i had a bad pregnancy and he was always loving to me.
He has stopped talking to them and stopped any contact with a so called best friend(she was in a relationship with my dp's mate)
he is a great guy ,very faithful and will do anything for me.
although this happened a long time ago i still cant get visions out of my head, i saw pictures of a girl (she sent them to him)naked. i can still see texts and e-mails in my head.
but how can i stop the thoughts and thinking he will do it all again even though he swears it will never happen again.
tell me i am just jealous and paranoid?

mamazon Sun 22-Jul-07 15:07:26

if you are you have eveyr right to be.

i think you should try talking to him anbout how you feel and se if there is anything that he can do to help you feel more secure in the relationship.

it may also be wise to try and speak to a relationship therapist about your feelings of jealousy...if they are unfounded.

jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 15:13:15

thankyou i have been thinking about a therapist but then i dont want to keep talking about , my dp knows how i feel and he will always listen to me but at the end of me telling him how i feel he always says "well i really dont know what to say apart from sorry i make you feel like that , you know i'm sorry i love you "etc etc etc .
i'm a mad woman!!!

jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 16:06:05

the stupid thing is i keep imagining what these women looked like ,if they're prettier than me, sexier than me, yeah i know its daft!!!!!

MhamaiJane Sun 22-Jul-07 16:11:33

It's not daft, using language like daft, sill etc only pepetuates that belief, maybe you are jealous tbh most women would have been given you circumstance, I'd second mamaxon's post of considering counselling.

MhamaiJane Sun 22-Jul-07 16:11:51

silly even

MhamaiJane Sun 22-Jul-07 16:12:55

And perpetuates, sorry some keys keep jamming.

MhamaiJane Sun 22-Jul-07 16:13:47

And finally mammazon.

jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 16:19:38

to make things even worse for myself i imagine that some are mumsnetters too!!!

MhamaiJane Sun 22-Jul-07 16:27:57

This obviously is eating away at you and if you do suspect that some of them are mumsnetters <and they could be> but I doubt it! You should check out the response to anyone that trys to come on here boasting of affairs!

Seriously though, I really would consider counselling, it does seem to be disrupting you in a negative way and MN should be a place for you to have fun support etc, not fear and paranoida unless you go onto the heated threads that is!

jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 17:55:07

anyone that has an affair imo is a wimp ! i think counselling is agreat way i must do some research for a counsellor.
as for they might be a mumsnetter well she could be she had a child as far as i knew and was single. but cant give anymore away just in case!

hertsnessex Sun 22-Jul-07 18:02:11

jsut a thought - but how old is your baby? could you be feeling very vulnerable right now - and thats why you are feeling so paranoid about how you look etc.

he is with you - he loves you - time to work on your self esteem i think.


jealousorparanoid Sun 22-Jul-07 18:37:39

baby is 14 months old. I know i'm not fat im a size 12 waist but its just the thought that the other women were almost magazine models (men's mag) iykwim

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