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MY partner is so tight with money is this normal(862 Posts)
I asked him for a lift to the hospital the other week and he asked me for a tenner for fuel I was just gobsmacked my son was in Hosptial and he asked me for money
This bit in particular....horrid 😮
Obviously get rid of him.
Give him a list of half of rent/gas/electric/council tax/insurance/broadband/FOOD/toiletries/cleaning products.
Email it to him (don't talk to him). Say he owes half.
When he doesn't pay kick him out.
Bet he doesn't and starts weaselling and offers you £200
He expects 70 a week to cover all his living expenses? That is ridiculous.
If I bring up money it all kicks off he says not his kids and that I would have to pay it all if he wasn’t here
What would he have to pay if he lived on his own!!??
He’s being a twat-he is saving money whilst you pay for everything and will be laughing when you (and you will) split up.
I've known some tight fellas over the years but this is too much.
Either he is fleecing you with his savings and intends to leave with his next egg or he's a blatant cocklodger.
Dump him NOW.
I’ve heard some awful things on Mumsnet over the years but to ask your partner for petrol money to get you to hospital is shocking.
What on Earth do you get from this relationship?
Tell him to get the fuck out and go see if 70 measly pounds will get him very far
I could just about see arguments either way for the amount he gives for his lodging but begrudging you a lift to hospital is just plain callous.
I wouldn't want a man under my roof who so plainly resented my kids.
He is a dead weight. I would dump him immediately for asking for fuel money to go to hospital, the rest of it is shocking enough.
Hes a selfish cocklodger, bin him off ASAP
I’ve been with my parter for six years I have three children from a previous relationship. My kids don’t see their father anymore he moved away and that was it he stopped contact which upset them greatly.
Anyway my partner earns in a day what I get in Three/four days so I’m not talking a small amount here .
My house is rented I pay all the bills all the rent and food he gives me £70 a week. I have a decent job but not amazing. I’ve added up my bills and rent and food and it’s a lot I have roughly £150-200 left per month for like treats for the kids clothes etc it is a struggle sometimes esp when a unexpected bill hits me etc my boys dad pays nothing. My partner is giving me £70 per week he earns about £3000-4000 a month he’s saving he keeps saying for us for a mortgage it’s hard to trust tbh. But this week I’ve been extra short I’ve had to borrow money off my mom to get food because we had a holiday to pay off which. Was half each and my car had to have lots of repairs done I’ve told him all week I have no money he just says well what happened to my £70 lol it doesn’t got very far with all k to outgoings the house is in my name so he thinks he doesn’t have to pay half but I rented the house before we met anyway and he moved in . He got two kids he has to pay CSA for but it isn’t that much £60 a week. I’m so sick of watching him buy stuff online and get new things and I haven’t got a pot to Pee in till the end of the month. If I bring up money it all kicks off he says not his kids and that I would have to pay it all if he wasn’t here. That’s not the point if they weren’t here he would have to pay half surely ?
He doesn’t buy food or give me extra hardly ever I have to beg for an extra £10 sometimes to get stuff he thinks £70 covers the food council tax water etc and it doesn’t
He’s got a lovely car and a nice van and my cars a bit of a banger now but it’s all I can afford it doesn’t seem fair after six years.
He doesn’t buy me things on Xmas and birthday I get stuff but never in between like he wouldn’t buy me clothes or the boys clothes at all.
He’s got other nice qualities but I feel like I pay for everything and he’s living for free and has no qualms about it I’ve bought it up so many times and it causes a row till he knows I won’t bring it back up again. His kids come to stay and he pays the same I have to text him and say get them food etc because it got to a point where I was feeding them to on £70 so I make him buy their food now. Everything is half holidays days out meals he never pays and he’s got the money to pay.
It’s getting to the point where I’ve had enough I don’t want this future now I’m in my early 30’s we don’t go out much if we do granted he does pay for my food but I always end up paying the drinks or something it’s never all for free.
I asked him for a lift to the hospital the other week and he asked me for a tenner for fuel I was just gobsmacked my son was in Hosptial and he asked me for money.
I don’t know what to do is anyone else partner like this please advise
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