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Should he wear his wedding ring?

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Raspberrytrifle92 Tue 14-May-19 22:52:12

My sister and husband fell out today because he’s told her that he doesn’t want to wear his ring because it’s irritating and he doesn’t like jewellery and has never worn any before. She was upset and they only got married last week and got back from honeymoon. It’s like he doesn’t understand the emotional said and what it means. I’m not sure what to say to my sister but was wondering if anyone on here has ever been told that their hubby doesn’t want to wear their ring. He’s only tried to wear it for a few days and he never said he didn’t like rings before they got married.

ScreamingLadySutch Tue 14-May-19 23:26:27

Men are such twats. Why do they make life so difficult!

Posh men tend not to wear wedding rings, in the old wedding ceremony only the wife is given a ring.

This is a perfectly reasonable open and honest conversation he could have had BEFORE getting married, now he has jolted his wife's trust in him with this avoidant passive aggressive BS.

GreenTulips Tue 14-May-19 23:28:42

He tried. It’s not a big deal. He still has it.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

Pipandmum Tue 14-May-19 23:29:32

While he should have said before he didn’t want to wear a ring I don’t see the issue. My dad never wore one and they were married for 49 years (before he passed away). So what it doesn’t mean the you are any less married.

Floralnomad Tue 14-May-19 23:33:29

We’ve been married for 30 yrs this year and dh wore his wedding ring for about a week before it came off , he’s not a jewellery wearer . It has never bothered me , and as it is I developed contact dermatitis badly about 15 yrs ago so I also cannot wear any jewellery now so the two rings live together in a box .

newnameold Tue 14-May-19 23:35:28

2 threads about your sisters husbands wedding ring? Why do you care?

happymummy12345 Wed 15-May-19 00:04:21

I'll be honest I would hate it if my husband refused to wear a ring. Then again I'd hate not having his last name.
It matters to me, a lot and I would be very upset by it.

FuriousVexation Wed 15-May-19 01:19:57

Had he ever tried to wear a ring before the wedding? If not, he wouldn't know that he didn't get on with rings and couldn't have let her know beforehand.

I mean let's be honest the "emotional side" of wearing a ring basically means "letting people know I'm owned" - so unless your sister thinks he's likely to go around telling people "yeah I'm single actually" then it's a moot point (and at which I'd say she has a bigger problem than the wearing or not of a ring)

OldAndWornOut Wed 15-May-19 01:23:21

You seem over invested in your sisters marriage.
Not the greatest start to wedded bliss, I would think, being harangued to wear jewellery by your wife and her family.

Myfoolishboatisleaning Wed 15-May-19 01:23:35

I don’t wear a wedding ring, my husband does. I still love him, despite not wearing a ring, (or taking his name 🙄)

MrHaroldFry Wed 15-May-19 01:27:40

I only ever wear my wedding ring if I remember to put it on. My husband never takes his off. Neither one of us is perplexed or emotional because of a ring. It is only a symbol, it is not the be all and end all.

Tavannach Wed 15-May-19 01:32:38

Does it fit properly?

MrsHormonal2019 Wed 15-May-19 02:01:15

My husband takes a lot of pride in his but he's a soppy git who loves the family cliche of married, kids and preggers wife and wants everyone to know it.
He should have been a woman lol

Sarah242 Wed 15-May-19 02:32:09

We talked about it before getting married because he didn’t want to wear a ring. He didn’t even want to get one, but I asked him to get one for the ceremony and said I wouldn’t mind if it sat in a drawer after that day.

Turns out he loves wearing it and wears his ring more than I wear mine.

I don’t think it matters that much, but it’s something worth talking about. Beforehand, preferably. My ex used to wear his religiously but it’s not like it stopped him from cheating on me.

OkPedro Wed 15-May-19 02:37:50

Yeah coz all women love the wedding, being preggers and having kids. Christ it’s like we’ve been transported to the 1950’s.
And “I would hate not having my husbands surname” double christ

Walkingdeadfangirl Wed 15-May-19 02:40:14

Seriously, why should he be forced to wear something he doesn't want to. WTF has the world come to?

wombat1a Wed 15-May-19 02:41:37

Dh never wears his, I really ought to get it melted down and turned into some ear rings in future so it doesn't go to waste.

Aquamarine1029 Wed 15-May-19 03:22:56

Her husband didn't say he doesn't like rings because he never wore one before. I fail to see the problem. It irritated him. My dad never wore his ring and my parents have been married for 50 years.

Alicewond Wed 15-May-19 03:26:17

I don’t wear rings, they annoy me, I never knew this before having to wear a rind daily forever

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 15-May-19 03:35:50

DH doesn't really like rings but he wears his. I'm fine either way. I didn't wear mine for a couple of years but I wear it now. Makes not a bit of difference to my fidelity or how I feel about DH.

Becles Wed 15-May-19 04:13:16

Check out the fitting and if that's not the problem, they can discuss selling both their wedding rings and spending the money on a romantic dinner.

The engagement ring can sit in a drawer.

StoppinBy Wed 15-May-19 05:18:08

I can't wear mine because I keep getting a nasty rash under it, every now and again I try to wear it and it flares up again.

I can see why your sister would be upset though if the only reason is it's annoying as you do quickly get used to them and not even notice them after a while.

BillywilliamV Wed 15-May-19 05:23:53

She could have the size altered and wear it herself?

Flyingkites123 Wed 15-May-19 05:30:26

Tbh, you've just reminded me I need to get my engagement ring from behind the bedside table as it's been there weeks. I hate wearing jewellery. It's not that I don't love my fiance. Oh course I do. But I really don't like wearing rings.

If your sister is worried that he isn't wearing it because he still wants to appear to be single maybe she needs to chat to him about it. But in my experience, its the men who slip it off when you don't know about it (I. E. In a bar) that you need to worry about.

Strugglingtodomybest Wed 15-May-19 05:41:03

My DH doesn't wear his, although he may have lost it, I'm not sure.

I'm not bothered, I know he loves me.

I'd tell my sister, as kindly as possible, to get a grip and not sweat the small stuff.

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