I am in what I'd consider to be a happy relationship. We enjoy time together, we get along easily, we enjoy similar thing (not all things but enough), we have similar goals and dreams. We have similar ideas on bringing up children. I can imagine living a pretty happy life together.
Our relationship seems to be easier and happier as time goes on.
My partner is not perfect. I do struggle with some of his "flaws". His flaws mostly come down to his desire to impress. Bragging, arrogance from time to time, embellishment of stories to become more exciting and interesting. In our early days, looking back, he was very eager to please and said some questionable things.
One thing that I am struggle to put aside is one part of his history that I am not sure adds up.
The story goes that he had a very long term relationship with someone, had a child with them and both died. At first I believed it, why wouldn't I and if it's true I will be quite mortified that I doubted it.
He has told many stories of her, not the child, over our time together. None of which I mind as it builds a picture of his youth. I don't doubt she existed.
However, some things have been a little odd for me.
- He has no trace of either of them, except 1 group photo found during our relationship. He explained this as he removed all whilst grieving
- Her engagement ring worth a reasonable sum he didn't know where it was or what happened to it. When I asked, within a month or so, her dad emailed out of the blue and he asked about it. She was buried with it.
- When asking to see their graves, should we have children, it'd be nice to know where their half sibling is. He claims he has forgotten the past few years after visiting at least yearly for many years.
- I have searched family tree birth and death records, news articles and general google. I haven't found anything.
- When discussing pregnancy and birth, he seems to not to be knowledgeable considering he had a child.
- His family have never mentioned anything. It was mentioned twice in front of his mum and his uncle. Both have memory problems but nothing really triggered.
I want to get to the bottom of this if we are to progress our relationship. I don't want to find out years later that it doesn't exist.
Does anyone have any clues? I don't want to get to the point of asking him outright