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feeling a little bit low

(34 Posts)
xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:38:53

I split from my bf today as he threw an object at me full force for saying that he was on the computer while i was out and i dont see why i should have to rush and get the housework done. I wasnt being arsey or anything, and i just told him to get out of my house. Am i being unreasonable do you think?

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:41:19

i think he should be grovelling at ur feet for throwind summat at u,y should u do the housework urself anyway???????????

Desiderata Sat 14-Jul-07 18:44:34

It's hard to know without being a fly on the wall, but when a partner starts throwing 'objects,' the next thing he/she starts to throw are punches.

Believe me.

So you did the right thing, and I would think carefully (and discuss with him deeply), before going forwards together from here.

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:44:41

Thankyou, At least its not me. He totally took me by surprise. Never done it before i didnt think he would ever be violent towards me! I do 99.9% of the housework although i have been slacking the past couple of days as i am exhausted having 3 kids 3,5&6 to look after. I still dont think there is any need for that. Also he keeps calling me fat which is pissing me off as im only a size 12!!!!!!!! what an arsehole!

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:46:15

well hes gone (with a fight) now so things will hopefully start picking up although he has threatened.....no no sorry "promised" (his words) to send someone round tonight to "sort me out"

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:47:41

well ur well rid then......ask him how thin he'd be after giving birth to 3 kids,and im jealous that ur only a size 12 lol

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:48:32

ring the police if ur worried and tell them hes beem threatening u.....what a shit!!!!!!!!!!!!

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:49:47

lol, to be fair i have put on a bit of weight since i started driving 2 years ago. Plus he isnt thin himself!! far from it. When i think about everything he has said to me and about me i think to myself omg why did i put up with it all

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:51:26

im constantly worried he knows i loose sleep as i have a really big fear of my house being broke into, he has said it to put the shits up me but its not fair. Hes very malicious, no hold on whats the word im looking for??......oh yes HES A TWAT!!!!

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:52:16

men r worse than women seriously,just do not entertain him anymore, can u sever all ties with him or do u have children with him?????

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:54:28

yes we have 3 children together, but now hes gone i doubt i will see him again, which im not bothered about to be honest. The kids dont care either so thats good. He is a bit of a bully to them also.

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:55:49

i've just thought.....more wardrobe space for me!! awoohoo

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:56:55

well if were u id ring the csa first thing monday morning even if u dont see him again he shud pay toward his kids upbringing

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 18:58:02

he doesnt work i wont get anything off him

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:58:06

lol, i cant belive hes threatened u when ur kids r in the house.......i bet he comes back for something stupid like the p.c lol

Wisteria Sat 14-Jul-07 18:58:40

You'll be far better off emotionally and so will your dcs - not a great role model for them by the sounds of it! Well done for being strong; it takes guts to do what you've done.

I did it (after quite a while of crap like that), wept buckets, despaired for a while; then woke up and have never looked back....

<patting you on back in whole hearted, well done you manner!!>

suezee Sat 14-Jul-07 18:59:19

oh yea u will they take it out of dole money if he claims that, and if hes not claiming it now he'll have to seeing as uve kicked him out.......they'll only take about 15 a fortnight of him but its better than nothing

Desiderata Sat 14-Jul-07 18:59:37

I'm glad you're seeing this so positively

Please be careful for a while, however. I don't think you should take his threat too lightly. Men have been known to do very funny things when thwarted.

Do you have a brother/father/cousin who could keep an eye out for a little while?

Wisteria Sat 14-Jul-07 19:10:11

That's good advice - and remember to save any abusive or threatening texts/ messages you get. It helps if you need to get a warning by the local police done (they did it for me and it scared the living shite out of him )

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 19:18:07

lol to be honest i take everything he says with a pinch of salt as he has always been a bit of a billy bullshitter. ive just seen him on my journey for vanilla slices and blanked him out completly yay me!!!

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 19:21:34

also well done Wisteria!!! i dont understand why men bully women???

hoolagirl Sat 14-Jul-07 19:21:52

You don't sound 'a little bit low' at all, you sound estatic! Go girl!

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 19:23:55

when i wrote it i was but then i had this surge of calm run through me and ifeel great now!!!!anyone wanna sharemy vanilla slices <<<<says with full mouth spitting crumbs in all directions and with custard dribbling down chin>>>

krispie Sat 14-Jul-07 19:44:18

oh xxkiexx, just seen you on another thread and noticed you were 10 weeks pregnant. even worse that he was violent towards you

xxkiexx Sat 14-Jul-07 19:45:34

Yes, that is one thing im abit worried about. 4 kids and all on my lonesome I shall cope

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