My dh had an angiogram yesterday and they are saying he had a minor heart attack which they stopped with treatment before damage was done to the heart but there are two blockages, so they are going to decide if he needs angioplasty or intense medication to deal with the blockages. So he is staying in hospital for another couple of weeks at least.
He lives and works 300 miles from me and the children and travels up every two weeks for a few days. It's two and a half weeks since I saw him and a week since his heart attack.
He told me not to come. To cancel the flights and come down after my sisters wedding which he knows is in August. (And never intended to go to it anyway-no change there)
He doesn't want to see me until he is better. And he doesn't want me to tell his brother in England what happened.
I am doing what he asks and not what I want to do at the moment.
I'm hurt that he doesn't want me and needs me to stay away.
It would be really hard for me to go down there with the children while he is in hospital. But if I thought that was his only reasoning I would do it anyway if he needed to see us.
Am I doing the right thing? Would it be just selfish of me to go against his wishes? Should I tell his brother?
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What would you do about an ill dh?
TransfiguratingLily · 11/07/2007 08:44
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