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Wants to see my body before we sleep together

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Floopyandtired Wed 20-Feb-19 08:38:13

I’ve been chatting to a new man for a few weeks. He’s 5 years younger than me and neither of us is looking for anything serious. Just a fwb situation if I’m honest. We’ve met up for coffee a couple of times and get on so well. Not kissed or anything yet. Last night we were messaging over WhatsApp and I mentioned how obviously my body, particularly my stomach, wasn’t what it used to be since having DC.

We then had the following convo:
Him: I think you’d have to let me see your stomach. Just to get it out my system.
Me: Pardon?
Him: I think I’d be distracted by it. Do you know what I mean? I’ve never seen anything like that before.
Me: No, I don’t know what you mean.
Him: I’d need to look at it and move on.

I told him politely that I am not my body is not a freak show, I’m just a woman who’s had a baby, and that I don’t think it’s going to work out but all the best. He was very apologetic and said he didn’t mean to offend, he’s just had no experience of being with a women who’s had a baby.

I’m torn over whether to put it down to immaturity on his part and move on as we really get on well, or stick to my guns and no longer continue the friendship.

hipposarerad Wed 20-Feb-19 08:39:47

Bin him

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Wed 20-Feb-19 08:40:29

He does sound pretty immature

Shinyletsbebadguys Wed 20-Feb-19 08:41:16

Good Lord no he is not remotely worth your time

Please do not give him a seconds thought you are worth so so much more than that

Dirtybadger Wed 20-Feb-19 08:41:19

Is he 18 or something? In fact even most teenagers would know not to say that (and not think that, too)

Definitely very immature. And odd. Sure you can bring the bar down lower for a FWB but not this low. Is a bloke that immature and "young" sexy?

AnyFucker Wed 20-Feb-19 08:41:45

Are you dating a 13yo ?

NotTheFordType Wed 20-Feb-19 08:42:14

Oh come on, he's an idiot.

Suebnm Wed 20-Feb-19 08:42:50

I'm in no way in the market for a relationship but I am bitchy and would ask to see his erect cock to see if he measures up.

PurpleDaisies Wed 20-Feb-19 08:43:09

How is this not an immediate dealbreaker?

Bluntness100 Wed 20-Feb-19 08:43:57

How old is he? I think he was taking rhe piss. No one asks this seriously.

TrixieFranklin Wed 20-Feb-19 08:44:18

What a wanker

Pinkyyy Wed 20-Feb-19 08:44:57

I think it's illegal to sleep with children.

cittigirl Wed 20-Feb-19 08:45:09

Suebnm ..love it grin

woollyheart Wed 20-Feb-19 08:45:26

@Pinkyyy 😂😂😂

SnailorSwift Wed 20-Feb-19 08:45:50

Oh ffs just sack him off. He sounds about 15. You don't need this type of man in your life, not worth your time and energy!

TheSassyAssassin Wed 20-Feb-19 08:46:04

Block the cock! Next...

PortiaCastis Wed 20-Feb-19 08:46:08

Ask him if you can take a pic of his cock standing to attention so you can compare it to others who measured up
Just bin the twat he's not worth your time

SpamChaudFroid Wed 20-Feb-19 08:46:11

Jesus Christ OP, perhaps he'd like to inspect your teeth as well?

hipposarerad Wed 20-Feb-19 08:46:27

And don't go bemoaning your 'not what it used to be' body to prospective partners. Especially when they're apparently still in 6th form.

Lweji Wed 20-Feb-19 08:46:55

Just reply that you don't want to be with such a cock. Even just to fuck.

Yippeee Wed 20-Feb-19 08:47:00

Omg that’s really awful. Please don’t meet himor degrade yourself by doing what he asks.

FamilyOfAliens Wed 20-Feb-19 08:48:02

Does he think he’s on Naked Attraction?

DrinkSangriaInThePark Wed 20-Feb-19 08:49:10

What an asshole. If he really fancied you that would be the last think he'd be concerned about. You'll be so paranoid and self conscious if you continue with him. Bin! And straightaway so that he realises what he's done!

Scabetty Wed 20-Feb-19 08:50:24

I think he was trying to get a few saucy snaps by playing the traumatised fuckwit. Took it too far grin

Whocansay Wed 20-Feb-19 08:51:04

I'd just block him. If you actually had sex, he'd probably give you an appraisal afterwards. What a dick head.

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