I’ve been chatting to a new man for a few weeks. He’s 5 years younger than me and neither of us is looking for anything serious. Just a fwb situation if I’m honest. We’ve met up for coffee a couple of times and get on so well. Not kissed or anything yet. Last night we were messaging over WhatsApp and I mentioned how obviously my body, particularly my stomach, wasn’t what it used to be since having DC.
We then had the following convo:
Him: I think you’d have to let me see your stomach. Just to get it out my system.
Me: Pardon?
Him: I think I’d be distracted by it. Do you know what I mean? I’ve never seen anything like that before.
Me: No, I don’t know what you mean.
Him: I’d need to look at it and move on.
I told him politely that I am not my body is not a freak show, I’m just a woman who’s had a baby, and that I don’t think it’s going to work out but all the best. He was very apologetic and said he didn’t mean to offend, he’s just had no experience of being with a women who’s had a baby.
I’m torn over whether to put it down to immaturity on his part and move on as we really get on well, or stick to my guns and no longer continue the friendship.
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Wants to see my body before we sleep together
Floopyandtired · 20/02/2019 08:38
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