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What have I just found on DH's phone?

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thenewzealandstory Tue 19-Feb-19 20:36:55

I went to look on the internet on DH's phone as mine was charging and a tab was open, not the one he'd been looking at.
It was a site called 'Jerkmate'.

Feeling pretty sick but weirdly not sure how to handle this.

I can't find a thing on his phone, emails, messages, nothing.

The only thing is that if I go onto his browsing history it only goes back as far as yesterday afternoon. So it looks like it's been deleted at that point.

Do I confront him or do I look for more evidence???

I'm actually more annoyed that this is a phone he lets the kids play on.

I know we aren't having as much sex as he'd like.

user3910 Tue 19-Feb-19 20:38:20

It is just a porn site OP?

user3910 Tue 19-Feb-19 20:38:35

Obviously understand you may not be ok with that

lottielady Tue 19-Feb-19 20:40:18

Apparently it’s a porn site that provides ‘teen masturbation partners’.

Yuk. Sorry OP.

Ellabella989 Tue 19-Feb-19 20:40:25

I’ve just looked and it’s a live cam show/porn website

mummmy2017 Tue 19-Feb-19 20:42:41

You can get your browser to delete history when it closes.
He could have done this so the children never see anything...

starzig Tue 19-Feb-19 20:45:29

Now on my browsing history too.
Hope my partner isn't paranoid and insecure or he may be posting on a chat forum about it as we speak.

thenewzealandstory Tue 19-Feb-19 20:49:37

I think I'm going to have to talk to him.
I just don't quite know how to even begin plus I guess he could lie about it so easily.

BarryTheKestrel Tue 19-Feb-19 20:52:49

Are you sure he's been using it or is it just a pop up from a more mainstream porn site? Is porn a no go in your relationship?

If you've been unable to find anything else - did you check if an account was logged in on the site? If not I'd go with a pop up rather than actively using it.

thenewzealandstory Tue 19-Feb-19 20:54:49

It wasn't logged in and when I clicked to log in it didn't come up with a known username or anything. I'm hoping it is a pop up.

thenewzealandstory Tue 19-Feb-19 20:57:15

He's never been into porn and quite uninterested. I think I'm the kinky one in our relationship!
He's either at home or work and calls me and texts me lots. He's a very lovely man.

But I guess everyone has secrets.

LuckyLou7 Tue 19-Feb-19 21:01:13

If he's a very lovely man, then talk to him, tell him what you saw on his phone. Maybe he's just been pretending to be disinterested in porn. If looking at porn isn't a dealbreaker, then tell him.

BlueJava Tue 19-Feb-19 21:02:34

Before you talk to him please consider it would genuinely have been an accident on his part. I warned DP on Sunday that I got our TV stuck on a lesbian dating site (I was searching for Lesley Sansome 1 mile happy walk to do some gentle exercise) and clicked something wrong... then again... then I was on a lesbian site. I told DP just in case he saw the history and thought it was one of our 2 DS. So it could be innocent.

BlueJava Tue 19-Feb-19 21:03:07

Sorry - could genuinely have been...

HappyLife21 Tue 19-Feb-19 21:06:11

We believe you Java grin

GabsAlot Tue 19-Feb-19 21:08:08

you can be lovely and still look at porn although dont let the kids play on the phone that could be dodgy

thefirst48 Tue 19-Feb-19 21:10:59

It's not just teens. It's a live cam website where the person you've chosen and yourself masturbate at the same time.

thenewzealandstory Tue 19-Feb-19 21:21:07

I told him I saw something on his phone and was shocked.

He says he looked at porn a few days ago but it wasn't a site with webcams.

This is all so very new to me because he's always said he doesn't look at porn.

I'm not anti porn but it's just why has he changed? Is it because we aren't having as much sex?

LuckyLou7 Tue 19-Feb-19 21:56:25

Ask him. Maybe it is the lack of sex? Maybe he has always been interested in porn but kept it a secret from you?

Adora10 Tue 19-Feb-19 23:10:34

So you’re ok with h him masturbating with a web cam girl he isn’t going to admit it and why’s he deleting his history if he’s innocent

Insomnibrat Tue 19-Feb-19 23:13:24

He hasn't changed. His story has.

MumsyJ Wed 20-Feb-19 06:36:43

Maybe trying to look out for ideas to impress you since you're the kinky one, hence the porn site visit? smile

LaughingCow99 Wed 20-Feb-19 06:46:30

Adora10, some people are OK with porn and there partners watching it. High horse, get down from. Porn is OK in many relationships. Web cam maybe much less so, but your judgey tone is cringeworthy. The op is in shock, lay off. Jesus.

LaughingCow99 Wed 20-Feb-19 06:46:49


AstralTraveller Wed 20-Feb-19 06:53:20

I used to work with a married couple. The wife was not at all techy and when we worked together she used to almost brag that her DH wasn't into porn, was the perfect husband blah blah. Except that I knew how to use the works computer. I knew exactly what he looked at when he was alone in the office. I wasn't the only employee that was aware of this either so you might well be in denial about what your DH looks at online OP.

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