I am looking for advice on how to deal with a situation, background is below.
My wife received a message from an old female friend, stating she was coming to visit this country in a few months, and to meet up, after 8 years of no contact.
When I asked who is coming, it includes a brother of the friend(referred to in the background). After mainly managing to put the past behind me, lots of discussion over the years, accepting my part of the issues back then etc. I just don’t feel I can handle my wife meeting that male friend, it all came flooding back and I cannot stop thinking about it, its months away!
My wife, just doesn’t seem to understand, despite all the deep, stressful conversations, arguments, that have been had over the years, it might be a problem for us, it caused an immediate disagreement and argument, as she sees nothing wrong with meeting.
What do I do!
How to not let this blow up and become a problem again!
Background:
Married 20+ years
We lived as a family(2 kids) in another country 10 years ago, for 3 years.
There for work, so I was very focused on that.
My wife became very friendly with a stay at home dad, together every day. Started lying to me about basics. Changed quite a lot, looks, clothes, approach to things.
It became a massive issue at the time for our relationship, split for a week or so to cool down, constant source of arguments, even for years after being back in the country.
She has always insisted no physical affair(despite going to the house late at night when I was away), though at times she accepts that the relationship may have gone too far emotionally, substituting me.
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Advice and help on what to do, as my wife is meeting an old friend
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justconfusedhere · 07/02/2019 12:21
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